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Lion wasn’t really in the mood last night. He was earlier in the day. We may have to go back to trying right after I get done with work. However, he usually takes a shower just before I’m off work and once he crawls into bed to get warm, he tends to snooze. There must be a sweet spot in there that will work.

He did like it when I played with my weenie. It felt good. Perhaps, just not good enough. Of course, I don’t mind making him feel good even if there’s no possibility of orgasm. After all, he doesn’t always get an orgasm when we play. Maybe he needs some clothespins or the promise (threat) of IcyHot. I’m not sure if he’s in one of his slumps or if he’s worried about his book. Either way, I’m still here. (Talk about a threat.) We can get through anything together.

A week from Thursday, I fly off to see my daughter graduate from college. It feels like I just went with her to visit the school and she’s ready to leave it. Lion will be all alone with the psycho dog. She’s been extra psycho the past few days. We may need to start her on her calming meds again, at least while I’m gone. She gets way too excited and starts jumping and scratching us. I’ll only be gone three days. I don’t want to leave Lion alone any longer. It’s difficult for him to do things on his own, but I can’t miss out on seeing the new graduate. It’s a scary and exciting time of life for her.

I still haven’t spanked Lion. He doesn’t want me to. Too bad it’s not up to him. I’m sure sooner or later he’ll step out of line and get what he deserves. I can wait. He’s hoping I’ll be waiting a very long time.

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In: Chastity device fitting
My “normal” flaccid penis. This is not even close to how short it often gets.

Out of idle curiosity, I searched “male chastity” on Amazon. Tons of Chinese chastity devices showed up. Judging by the promised delivery dates (June), they are shipping from China. FYI, dhgate.com (search chastity) has the same stuff and more at lower prices. More interesting to me is that many of the devices are short–lion short. My Jail Bird has a one-inch cage. It’s nice to see that chastity device makers are creating cages better suited for most of us.

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Turtle mode. A cage about the same length as the head will work perfectly.

Many men who want to buy a male chastity device will measure their cocks when they aren’t at their shortest. A properly fitting chastity device should fit so that the head of the penis is always in firm contact with the front of the cage. Most of us have penises that will “turtle” a good amount of time. This is the correct size for the cage. After several adjustments in cage size, I discovered that the best fit was the shortest cage.

shortened jail bird
This is my Jail Bird with the cage shortened to 1-1/4 inches. Now my urethra poked out almost all the time. (Click image to view larger)

If you leave any space in length, the head of the penis will wander, and peeing becomes a seriously messy game of chance. Also, erection control and comfort are improved with a properly sized cage. The diameter of the cage shouldn’t be too small. Ideally, your soft cock will comfortably fit. Squeezing the diameter can result in edema, swelling of the penis in an uncomfortable way.

Speaking of male chastity devices, I expect Mrs. Lion to lock me into my cock ring or a cage now that the little sore I had is healed. She’ll probably lock me into the cock ring. The cage has a spray risk even at its very short length. My urethra can wander and “bite” the bar. This results in a messy trip to the bathroom. She might choose to leave me wild since there is no risk of me jerking off.

Before I started dealing with chastity devices, I had no idea that my soft penis had so many moods. Other men may not turtle as much as me. It’s important to understand this shortest length. For me that meant my cage is only slightly longer than the length of my penis head. I suspect that most men aren’t much different.

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In: Mrs Lion Comments

We snuggled last night. Initially, I was just going to snuggle, but then Lion invited me to let my hand wander. He was enjoying himself, but I didn’t go beyond that. In hindsight, I probably should have, but it was the first night we’d done anything. We can go further tonight.

When Lion was taking out his contacts, he lost one. I went to help find it. I always look on the floor first to make sure I’m not going to step on it. It wasn’t there. I looked all over the sink and counter. We took the drain apart since it was hiding in there the other night. I looked all over the floor again and moved to look on the counter again and crunch. I don’t know where it was hiding. I swear I looked. I know I looked. Is it possible it fell when we were looking elsewhere? We heard a crunch. I stepped on it.

If it had been his other contact, I don’t think it would have broken from being stepped on. This one was the new scleral lens he was trying. The doctor tweaked the prescription a little so there is another one on order, but it’s not in yet. We’re supposed to swap this contact for the new one. They don’t want it back in pieces so we’ll have to pay for it all over again. The good news is that they aren’t quite as expensive as the old contacts that he was losing every week there for a while. The bad news is that it takes a few weeks to get them in. Lion’s vision is much better in the newer contact. I feel horrible about breaking it.

I guess, if Lion can’t see as well, I’ll have to find a way to amuse him. (He’s frantically waving his hand.) He knows exactly how I can amuse him. I do too. Not to worry, my pet. You’ll have a fun time tonight. [Lion — Is the fun a spanking or sex? She’s a sneaky lioness.]

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In: Spanking, Domestic discipline

I slightly changed our site logo (on top of the web page). It better reflects the direction our blog has taken. It used to list “chastity devices” first. We don’t get many to review after nearly a decade. There simply aren’t any really new designs as far as I can tell. Male orgasm control remains a major topic. It’s also something we’ve practiced since starting the blog. I haven’t had one unsupervised orgasm since 2014. Mrs. Lion has produced every single one since December 2013.

Domestic discipline is up on the masthead. We practice it and talk about it a lot. Spanking remains prominent. It’s part of domestic discipline, but it also exists as a stand-alone activity. We have a lot of material about chastity devices and how to live with them so they remain on top. We need to acknowledge that our direction has changed a bit over the years.

The word “male” belongs in front of each item on the masthead. It looks unnecessary if I put it there. We’ve learned that all of those activities are different when it comes to which gender is on the receiving end. Spanking a man is functionally different from spanking a woman. The difference is partially physical. Men seem to have thicker hides than women. Spanking a man requires more force and time than for a female. How do I know? I’ve spanked dozens of women over the years. It isn’t that they can’t take as much. Many can take a lot more than this man. It’s that the application of force is different.

The other big difference is that some (many?) women can orgasm during a spanking. The pain is often overpowered by sexual stimulation the swats provide. Female sex parts are internal and can “feel” the movement and vibration of a spanking. We males don’t have that anatomy, and spanking is pure pain to most of us. The posts we offer on male (me!) spanking are not unisex.

Most domestic discipline is practiced with the female being disciplined. Our brand has emerged fairly recently. Traditional DD is often part of various Christian sects that preach a patriarchal home with the man of the house punishing his wife as needed. This isn’t necessarily consensual. Tradition replaces consent in that context.

Our brand of domestic discipline is consensual. It’s usually initiated by the member of the couple who wants to be disciplined. It can be either partner. We write about the male version, where the man is disciplined by his partner. I’m the disciplined male in our marriage. (Julie, of Strict Julie Spanked, writes about it from the disciplined female point of view.) I asked Mrs. Lion to become my disciplinary wife. She’s learned how to be very good in this role.

We’ve rarely written about consent. The fantasies about domestic discipline and male chastity suggest that once given, it can’t be revoked. This is never the case. The disciplined or locked-up male has to consent. Mrs. Lion can’t force me to lie on the spanking bench. Once I’m on it, I’m usually strapped down, so I can’t change my mind. I can always safeword. More subtle forces prevent the withdrawal of consent in real life. I get sexually aroused thinking about being spanked. This is a common thread in both sexes. That inner heat draws me to the spanking bench like a powerful magnet. Once I’m trapped in its grip, I’m usually sorry but can’t escape.

We both continue with male orgasm control and domestic discipline because it works for us. For medical reasons, we suspended DD, and both of us missed it. I don’t think either of us understands exactly why, but we are happier with DD and orgasm control. It’s become a welcome part of our lives.

Anyway, that’s why I changed our masthead. It reflects where we are now, in our ninth year of blogging.