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I was less than thrilled with Lion’s idea to move things out of bed. For years I’ve been advocating moving everything out of the bedroom except sex. At first, his rationale for not doing it was that our house in New York didn’t have a television in the living room. Initially, our living room in our old house in Washington was too cluttered. However, once it was decluttered, it was too chilly and/or too uncomfortable and/or some other reason. The living room in this house was too cluttered and now there isn’t a comfortable place for him to sit. At times, I’ve thought about just sitting in the living room without him to see if he’d follow. I assume not. He’s much more comfortable in bed. [Lion — Right now the living room is quite cluttered. We have two Ikea chairs that used to work will for me before my neck surgery. Now they are too difficult for me to use because the seats are low. I can probably use the couch. We can also go chair shopping. I like the idea of using the bed a lot less.]

Tonight, I’ll pull out the spanking bench and give him some attention. I guess we’ll have to start calling it the everything bench now. I don’t know exactly how it will work but I suppose, like everything else, it will take some time to get used to. As you may have guessed, I didn’t look for the restraints after work. When I approached Lion with the rope, he said I didn’t have to bother. And then he tried telling me I didn’t have to take the cock ring off, but I thought he was in a “poor me” mood and didn’t want to bother me at all. I wasn’t bothered. I wanted to tie his balls up. I didn’t realize until later that he wanted the ring on because it had a hand in turning him on. I sure wasn’t turning him on. He told me it was like I’d forgotten how to jerk him off. I thought I’d been doing it right. I guess all those years of doing it one way were wrong. Go figure.

When it became clear that he wasn’t going to be turned on even with me touching him in the right place, we decided to stop. I went off in search of the restraints. Lion told me not to waste my time, but when else would I have time to do it (and be thinking about it). It didn’t take long to find them. I had an idea where they were. Now I just have to snap the top ones on near the headboard and keep the other ones handy to go near the footboard. Of course, that’s when we use the bed. There may be a way to use them on the everything bench or even the waxing table. I’ll have to think about that.

For now, the everything bench will be the go-to piece of furniture around here. We may need to splurge on something a little more sturdy and comfortable.

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In: Sex

Maybe is a popular word here. It doesn’t mean no and isn’t yes. The beef stew wasn’t made because it was frozen solid at 3:30. It takes too long to cook for us to start any later than this. I suppose that clears the deck for sexual activity tonight. That doesn’t mean there will be any, just that it is possible.

I’m getting cynical about sex. We still don’t have a good way to communicate desire and intention. If I say I’m horny, Mrs. Lion will do something for me even if she isn’t feeling well. If I don’t say anything and wait to see if something develops, it usually won’t. That’s how we’ve gotten to 15 days since my last orgasm. I’m writing this on Monday afternoon.

We have a failure to communicate. There’s a more difficult problem. Mrs. Lion and I can’t seem to get properly situated for handjobs. She currently sits on the edge of the bed near my feet and works from there. I have to make room for her while still providing access to my naughty bits. It’s difficult for me in that position.

I’ve been wondering about using the spanking bench instead of the bed. If I lie on my back, she can sit in a chair and have very good access. The bench is narrow enough for her to find a good spot. Alternatively, the waxing table is at just the right height for her if she is standing. We have a Sleep Number bed, and it isn’t great for this.

When we had the sling set up, it provided excellent access for manual and oral stimulation. It was also perfect for anal play. Too bad we almost never used it. That brings me to my central point. Our best stuff, from spanking to blow jobs were delivered out of bed. Our bed is far from ideal for most sex.

I also think that if we teach ourselves to go somewhere other than the bed for most sex and play, it will set expectations accurately and will provide a certain amount of locational foreplay when we move to the assigned spot. Moving spankings to the spanking bench improved more than just the delivery of the punishment. It also makes Mrs. Lion’s intention totally clear. We are both prepared for what is to come.

This is equally valuable for sex. If we can improve delivery as well as atmosphere, we have a serious winner. What do you think, Mrs. Lion?

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In: Bondage, Edging, Orgasm

I did a Costco run yesterday and then mowed part of the lawn. I was tired and achy, but not as tired and achy as I usually am after doing that much. Maybe it’s because I’m normally more tired and achy now anyway. When I was ready to settle in after my shower, Lion suggested watching a documentary series about New York City that we started last weekend. I don’t know how many parts there are, but we’re learning a lot even though Lion lived deep in the heart of Manhattan for most of his life. We were snuggled in for the night, and we didn’t do anything sexual.

Assuming the stew meat thaws enough (I just took it out of the freezer a few minutes ago), we’ll be filling the house with yummy stew smells. Most of the work is letting it cook on the stove or in the oven, so there will be time for Lion attention. Even if he has to wait until after dinner, he’ll get some action. I should have looked for the restraints over the weekend when I had more time, but I didn’t. I have a rough idea of where they are, so finding them may not be too hard. I don’t want to promise I’ll be tying him down tonight.

Part of me wants to entice him with talk of an orgasm. The past few times we’ve played, he hasn’t been able to make it to the edge. I wonder if he’d go charging up the hill with the knowledge that he’d be king of said hill. Perhaps he needs me to find those restraints first. Nothing seems to turn him on more than being tied up. I guess I’ll need to make time to find them for tonight after all. Spread-eagle and blindfolded. Who needs stew when you have a yummy Lion?

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In: Chastity hardware

You may wonder why a locking cock ring is a valid expression of male chastity. It’s ironic that in this kink, we start with the most extreme expression, a male chastity device. This device has two main components: a base ring that goes around the cock and balls and a cage that encases the penis and prevents erection and ejaculation. Its purpose is to prevent masturbation.

I wore various male chastity devices (cages) 24/7 for over three years. Mrs.Lion tapered off locking me up after I had shoulder surgery. That was about three years after she started. It became clear that I had “forgotten” how to masturbate. Sure, there are times I play with my penis. I never get close to orgasm. It isn’t so much that I stop myself. I just don’t think of it. All those years in a male chastity device broke me of the habit.

More recently, I’ve missed the feeling of my penis belonging to my lioness. Sure, I know it’s hers, but I liked it when I wore a device locked around my cock. A simple solution would be to go back to wearing a male chastity device. I hesitate because the device makes peeing difficult. My urethra wanders off-center in a device and urine sprays. One of our readers gave his solution for that problem. He pees into a cup held over his cage. The cup catches the spray. Smart. We have a plastic 32-ounce pitcher that would be perfect.

I had a less radical idea. Since I don’t need a male chastity device to prevent masturbation, maybe a locking cock ring would do the trick. Mature Metal makes this device, the same people who make the Jail Bird, my favorite male chastity device. Essentially, it is a Jail Bird with the cage removed. It has the base ring that goes around my cock and balls and the first penis ring of the chastity device.

The penis ring is slightly larger than the one on my Jail Bird. That’s to allow for expansion when I get hard. It’s not designed to strangle my erect penis. It’s tight enough to apply pressure, but not too much. The people at Mature Metal say it is a good way to start before wearing a cage. I disagree. It’s really an invisible male chastity device. Make no mistake; it’s securely locked in place. Sure, I can get my penis out, but it isn’t coming off my balls.

I chose a double base ring for my invisible chastity device. It’s heavier but more comfortable than a single ring. If I were to go back to wearing the Jail Bird full time, I would ask Mrs. Lion to let me order the double ring for it. I don’t recommend a double-ring when you start out. The chances are good that you will need to try at least one different size ring to get the perfect fit. The double rings are much more expensive to replace. Once you are sure you have the perfect size, get the wider ring if you want.

When I wore the Jail Bird, Mrs. Lion would comment on how much she liked seeing it on me. She hasn’t made any comments about my invisible chastity device. It keeps my balls front and center like the Jail Bird did. It’s impossible for me to forget I’m locked up. Time will tell if the invisible male chastity device works for us.