Most people say that men prefer porn more than women. I’m not sure about that. I do wonder what women who enjoy seeing naked men like looking at. Some time ago, I did an informal Twitter poll to find out if women prefer seeing men with or without erections. About three-quarters preferred a hard cock. Mrs. Lion said there is no doubt that she prefers seeing erect penises. As far as I know, she doesn’t seek out images of naked men. Since I’m naked all the time we are home, she has one to see anytime she wants. Of course, she has to do some work if she wants to see me hard.
More recently, I asked if women liked to see a man masturbate. I was referring to images online. A surprising 62% said they do, 25% said they do only if the guy in the picture is a friend. 13% said they don’t. Since I am not allowed to masturbate, and as far as I know, Mrs. Lion doesn’t look online, I don’t know how she feels about it. If she decides to let me do it under her supervision, we’ll find out if she likes that visual. [Mrs. Lion — Does Lion not remember masturbating on camera for me before we moved in together? It was fun then, but that was before I forbid him from masturbating. It might be nice to see his technique again, especially after his recent critique of my hand job.]
I think it’s significant that so many women enjoy watching. Every woman I’ve had a long-term relationship with asked me to masturbate for them. Some of the time, I’m sure it was a way to avoid the work of getting me off. Mostly, I believe it was arousing to them. I was always told that visual stimuli don’t arouse women. By that, I mean seeing male genitals or watching people have sex. It appears that isn’t true now if it ever was in the past.
The flip side of my question is how many men like being watched when they jerk off. I put another poll on Twitter to try to find out. I’ve had some experience with being jerked off in a semi-public setting, a BDSM play party. Usually, after a scene when I bottomed (not very often), part of the action would be my top jerking me off. I switched with a few women over the years. One, a rather well-known author, was a regular play partner. We alternated topping duties. When I topped her, I would masturbate her until she had several orgasms at the end of the scene. When she topped, she returned the favor. There were usually onlookers during our scenes.
When I was the bottom and was jerked off, I had a sense of humiliation. I’m not accustomed to being naked and having an erection in the middle of a large (several hundred people) play party. It was a naughty feeling of excitement. Obviously, they all weren’t watching. I doubt many took notice at all. Still, there I was, tied spread-eagle to a table in the middle of the room. The woman topping me was playing with my penis and making no effort to conceal her success. She would go on to jerk me off. That was definitely an uncommon event for me.
I admit it. I had fun. Come to think of it, that was obvious, wasn’t it? That isn’t quite the same as me doing it myself in front of others. I’ve never done that. I think it would be difficult. I would probably have to close my eyes and pretend I’m alone. I suppose if it were part of a scene, I would do it. It isn’t something I would ever ask to do. And, no, it isn’t a fantasy of mine either.
I do not know what this taboo is connected with, but it seems to me that it is easier to have sex in public than to jerk off.