When I was making dinner, really just heating up pizza from the night before, I noticed the coffee pot still in the dish drainer. Uh oh. Lion forgot. Would he be getting a punishment spanking instead of a “just because” spanking? There’s really no difference between them, except the knowledge that he’s earned the punishment spanking. The what-did-I-do-to-deserve-this feeling is there, I assume, for both. I won’t say there’s no reason for the “just because” spanking. He’s asked me to punish him and we both still need the practice. However, when he’s done something wrong to be punished. I guess it’s the difference between a cop pulling you over when you have no idea what you’ve done versus knowing you’ve been caught doing something you shouldn’t have been doing. You’ll get a ticket either way, but one makes more sense than the other.
We tried maintenance spanking in the past. It was somewhere between a play spanking and a punishment spanking. There really wasn’t any need for ferocious swats. He hadn’t done anything wrong. But it wasn’t exactly play either. It was supposed to be more severe, but not too severe. It didn’t work out very well. I didn’t see the need to spank him for no reason. I think it sent mixed signals. And it wasn’t very effective for either of us.
Lion proposed supplemental spankings if he hadn’t earned any punishment in a while. These spankings would be as severe as punishment. For him, they serve as a reminder. If he’s getting too lax, it should bring him back to the straight and narrow. For me, they are practice. I’m still new to such severe spankings. I may tend to give him lighter swats until I’m conditioned. We’re both learning. I need to reach a point that I’m giving him swats he’ll try to avoid by not breaking the rules. And, ironically, he needs to be reminded of what happens if he happens to break one. It may seem counterintuitive, but so far, it works.
Will he reach a point that he needs no more reminders because he’s such a good boy? I don’t know. If he does, does that mean he needs more rules? Will I reach a point that I am an expert with a paddle? I really doubt it. There’s always a chance I’ll regress. Even pro athletes need practice.
By the way, around 10 he toddled out to put the coffee pot together and saved his butt.