Our experiment at an earlier time started as a success. However, it wiped me out. I knew Lion was close. He was close a few times, with breaks in between for me. Then I tried my hand. Then I tried the Magic Wand. I think since he needs a longer run-up to the edge, I need to do something BDSM-ish.
Yesterday, I suggested play spanking, but I didn’t want to do it when we were trying an earlier time because we wouldn’t know which worked. It’s certainly possible that playing earlier had a positive effect. Now, if I add in some play, such as a play spanking, maybe it will shorten the time it takes to get to the edge while I’m sucking him.
I don’t know what’s been going on that he loses his erection prematurely. I really do want to give him an orgasm. But then I think he’d be better off if I edge him for a day or two first. And then I worry about it being difficult to get him back to the edge the next day. Is it possible that there’s some muscle memory type of thing that will kick in if I give him an orgasm, so his body remembers what it feels like? It sounds silly, but I hope you know what I mean. In the past, I’ve equated it to blowing out the pipes or priming the pump. I want to get him up the mountain and over the edge, and maybe the next “valley” won’t be quite as big.
Maybe I’m making too big a deal out of it. I don’t want to put pressure on him. I’ll keep trying no matter how long it takes. On the other hand, what if I did demand an orgasm? Would my taking charge of the situation make any difference? Does he need me to be a bitch and take away privileges like he’s a teenager who crashed the car? I doubt it, but I’m willing to try if he thinks that will help.
I think more experimenting is in order. Let the spanking begin!