Saturday night Mrs. Lion gave me a wonderful orgasm. I’m leading with that item because I know everyone waits eagerly to learn when I get to ejaculate. Uh-huh. Anyway, this is a sex blog and that was distinctly sexual. I had a very good time. Aren’t you glad you read this?
Mrs. Lion wrote that she growled at me when she thought I was complaining about her. I was talking to our dog who makes herself a pest sometimes. The thing is that I don’t remember being growled at. Am I losing it or is Mrs. Lion’s growl almost inaudible? I will follow up and let you know.
The more I think about it, the more I’m convinced that Female Led Relationships (FLR) and Domestic Discipline (DD) the way we practice it, are a sort of game we guys invented. Think about it. We say, “I want you to be in charge and make rules. When I break a rule, I want you to spank me. By the way, I get hot thinking about being spanked.”
Of course, I’m oversimplifying, but you get the point. I haven’t run into a situation where the woman told her husband that she was going to be in charge and punish him when she felt he needed it. Let’s face it, all this is hot stuff. Many guys (substitute “women” if the female is being disciplined) also create extensive contracts to cover DD. Most of them read more like sex fantasies than anything meaningful.
Does this mean that DD and FLR aren’t particularly useful beyond being a BDSM activity? I’m not willing to go that far. My motive for putting myself under Mrs. Lion’s authority wasn’t just because I find it hot to feel her control and her paddle. My initial motive was exactly that. However, over time it became clear to me that we get something more out of it.
What started out (OK, and continues to be) a very hot thing for us to do, ended up improving our relationship. DD and FLR actively encourage discussions of behavior. Initially, they may be focused more on BDSM, but over time we developed a habit of communicating about what bothers us. Mrs. Lion is our designated hitter. She definitely is in charge. She’s learning to make use of the power I want her to have in a constructive way.
It’s only a matter of time before the game turns into something more. That doesn’t mean I have to look forward to living in a miserable state of subjugation. It just means that Mrs. Lion will have a useful tool to help build our marriage.
Play, just don’t quarrel.
I agree that it’s a sex based game. My wife spanks me because I want her to. We have recently increased the intensity of the spankings by restraining me (I don’t know how some people manage to stay in position with powerful implements) and that’s added an edge that wasn’t there when I had control of the spanking.
Still, there have been some collateral benefits. I earn strokes by not completing tasks on my list or tasks that she has allocated me. I have been more diligent with those tasks than ever before. They’re all garden variety jobs but not doing some of them can cause bigger problems, eg regular tooth brushing.
We don’t have many high level stress points in our relationship but spanking is definitely helping with the lower level issues!
Silk