Who Wouldn’t Want A Blow Job?

What man wouldn’t want a blow job? That’s what she said. Mrs. Lion was talking about my lack of interest in getting one on Saturday night. She suggested that I have a kind of ideal sex life. She has no interest in sex for herself but is happy to satisfy me, or at least edge me. Her assumption is that in relationships where both partners want sexual satisfaction if the woman isn’t in the mood, the man gets nothing. Mrs. Lion is never in the mood, yet I always get something.

That proves Mrs. Lion is very generous. She’s willing to keep up my sex life without one of her own. I’m sure she has some idea how that affects me. I’m not so sure she really understands. I can’t generalize my feelings to all men. I can only tell you how I feel. I used to get a significant amount of pleasure out of giving orgasms to my lioness. Aside from making me feel macho pleasure, it was also very arousing when I gave her pleasure.

That was quite a while ago. It’s been years since Mrs. Lion has wanted sex. She has lubed up and ridden me on very rare occasions. The last time was March of 2018. I knew she didn’t really enjoy the experience. She did it because she felt I missed vaginal sex. I do. It was fun, but not the sort I had wanted.

None of this is her fault. She can’t help that she no longer wants sex. It’s certainly not her fault that I sometimes don’t want the one-way sex she offeres me. As she said, “What man wouldn’t want a blow job?” I would want one. But that desire isn’t unconditional. To be clear, a blow job from Mrs. Lion isn’t like an impersonal one I could buy from a sex worker. Mrs. Lion wants me to have the most fun possible. When she edges me, she wants me to be as frustrated as I am capable of being. She takes pride in her ability to please or frustrate me.

She does a great job. The issue is all mine. At some point I will reach a hormonal tipping point. I will want an orgasm enough to push down the other feelings. Sometimes that happens right after an orgasm. I want another and I can pretend we have a two-way sex life.

I don’tthink that two-person sex where only one person actually experiences sexual pleasure is all that different from one-person sex. It certainly feels better. When I used to masturbate, it never felt as good as my lioness jerking me off and wasn’t on the same planet with her blow jobs. But this isn’t about degree of sexual pleasure. I think it’s about a connection that is forged and reinforced by mutual sexual satisfaction.

One of the top reasons for divorce is sexual incompatibility. Generally, one partner is sexualy frustrated by lack of attention from the other. Often, this results in adultery. The need for sex is a powerful force. It will make sane people do crazy things. For the record, I don’t have a lover. I haven’t had sex with anyone but Mrs. Lion since we’ve been together.

I’ve helped her help me. Our male chastity and domestic discipline partly replace two-partner sex. At the least, it distracts me. These practices provide us with a sexual framework that doesn’t involve Mrs. Lion wanting sexual pleasure. It would be a lot more fun if she did, but it works pretty well without her having orgasms.

She writes about me being sad. She seems confused by why I would be. Wisely, she realizes that she can’t just tell me to cheer up. That never works. Without question, she can get me hard and with some work get me off. I can get her off too. She is perfectly capable of having orgasms even though she isn’t interested in sex. I’ve given her several over the time she’s said she isn’t interested. I’ve wondered why she doesn’t want me to do this for her. I’ve never gotten an answer I can understand.

Does this lack of sexual compatibility have the ability to damage our relationship? Or, can devotion and willingness to get me off be enough to offset the lack of two-partner sex? These are hard questions to answer. I think that without Mrs. Lion’s ongoing efforts to satisfy me sexually the problem would grow and potentially consume us. I’m pretty sure she believes this.

My periods of being “sad” have become more frequent. I can’t honestly say that Mrs. Lion lubing up and riding me will improve things. I know it is artificial and just another way to get me off. Giving her more frequent orgasms have a better chance if she enjoys them. I’m not sure either activity will do it for me. Maybe what I want is just not possible. Perhaps we can stave off these frequent “sad” times with more lion-only activities. Spanking seems to distract me. I don’t know.

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3 Comments

  1. Mrs. Lion is really very generous, and she also loves you if she is willing to do anything for you.

  2. I understand your sadness. I’m fortunate that my wife still enjoys it when I give her orgasms, although possibly not to the extent (or frequency, at least) that I enjoy giving them to her. She keeps me locked up essentially all the time now, unlocking me for an orgasm once or twice a month. However, she teases me, often extensively, almost daily, and it’s these sessions that often end in an orgasm for her. I get a deep pleasure from giving them to her, and in my case it’s not a macho pride at all, but a reassurance that I can make her feel good. As you do, I feel that two-way sex is an important, perhaps crucial, element in a romantic partnership or marriage.

    Even before we got so heavily involved in chastity play, my wife never had an orgasm from “normal” sex, although she seems to enjoy it well enough. Somewhat ironically, the only time she’s orgasmed from penetrative sex is when I’ve been wearing a strap-on – that’s happened a few times now. (It’s a bit odd to me, because I’m definitely not under-endowed. I suspect it’s because she’s unable to stop thinking of my feelings and pleasure when it’s me inside her; when it’s the dildo, she has no such concerns and is free to shut her mind off.)

    I read once that women who have more sexual interaction (and presumably orgasms) will continue to want more, unlike men, who have a tendency to become sated by sexual activity. I have not found this to be true with my wife, but maybe it is to some extent with Mrs. Lion. Perhaps getting back in the habit of having enjoyable sexual activity (for her) will have a positive effect on her general libido. “Fake it ’till you make it”, as it were…

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      We tried giving her orgasms even though she wasn’t in the mood. It didn’t work. She’s committed to see if there isn’t a medical way to identify the cause and perhaps correction of this loss of libido. If not, I’m sure we’ll figure out a way to make things work.

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