On Friday, I was up and down the ladder trying to fix the satellite TV in the camper. Yesterday, I was hunched over setting up the tire pressure monitor and putting air in the tires. Both took a toll on my back and legs. Plus, it’s finally warmer here so the sun beating down on me didn’t help. Over the years I’ve lost my New York immunity to summer heat and humidity. Between the two days, I wasn’t in the mood for playing and/or sex last night. Of course Lion, after two days of not wanting it, did want it. That’s the way the cookie crumbles.
Lion has asked that we play early today. I’m not quite sure what early means. Afternoon? Just before dinner? Just after dinner? He probably means afternoon. In just a few minutes, it will be afternoon here. I’m shooting for 3ish. I have a few chores to do and then I can bring out the Box O’Fun, or he can tell me what he’d like. I’m feeling generous enough to allow him to pick.
Yesterday, my post was about communication. I was a little concerned about Lion not wanting play or sex for two days. It’s not like him. A few days after an orgasm, he’s usually raring to go. Lion took that to mean he’d get punished if he couldn’t get hard when I wanted him to. Is that what I said? I don’t think so. Generally, if Lion doesn’t want to play, he’ll tell me he’s tired or isn’t feeling well. Those two days, he didn’t offer any explanation. To be fair, he’s under no obligation to play on any given day. I’m the one who has vowed to play with him, or at least be willing to, six out of seven days. Theoretically, he could tell me to go pound salt for a month and there’s nothing I could do about it. However, I know we’re prone to inertia. If he waves me off for days on end, I’m liable to stop trying and then we’re not even holding hands anymore. Back to square one. Not on my watch.
That’s where my idea came from. If he can’t communicate a reason for not wanting sex, then he gets a spanking. All it takes is, “I think I’m in the doldrums, but I should be fine tomorrow” or “I’ve got my mind on other things right now” and all will be well. Let me know what’s going on inside his mind. Done.
Lion does get in the doldrums from time to time. He just can’t seem to muster an erection. That’s no reason to spank him. It’s an organic thing. It’s not like he isn’t trying. We both know he’ll come out of it eventually, usually not before he claims he’s broken. About a week ago, I tied his balls with a rope and he remained soft. That’s not a normal reaction to having his balls tied. Was it worrisome? A little. Was it a spankable offense? No way. Given the fact that Mr. Weenie rises to the occasion even when Lion hates what I’m doing, I’m going to go out on a limb and say that Lion can’t stifle an erection on purpose. If my weenie isn’t standing tall, it isn’t by choice.
There will be no spanking for not getting hard. The offense is not communicating. I’ve just realized how ironic this new rule is. He has a rule about being a know-it-all and not shutting up, and now he has a rule to encourage him to talk.