Even though everyone knows I like to be spanked, I absolutely hate punishment spankings. On Saturday I didn’t prepare the coffee pot for Sunday breakfast. I woke up before Mrs. Lion on Sunday morning and made a point of taking care of that before she would need it. This is the second time I’ve gotten up early to get things set up and avoid a spanking.
I don’t know if the reason I felt I had to get this done was that I feared having my butt swatted. Part of it certainly was. I also didn’t want to disappoint my lioness. I have to admit she treats these lapses when I make them as a little amusing. I think she likes catching me and then tanning my hide. I find myself working very hard to avoid that situation.
The idea of getting caught and being punished does turn me on. I had the ideal opportunity to let that happen yesterday. I even thought about it. I couldn’t bring myself to consciously disobey. That’s why I got up early and prepared the coffee pot.
This demonstrates that domestic discipline isn’t a sexy game for us. Yes, it is sexy. And yes, that was my initial motivation for starting it up in our relationship. I still get turned on thinking about Mrs. Lion punishing me. That doesn’t matter. I work very hard to avoid feeling her paddle.
A good part of that is her skill at spanking. She means business and doesn’t stop no matter how unhappy I am until she feels she’s made her point. That is a real punishment spanking. Even to someone like me, who enjoys spanking, it’s something to fear and work hard to avoid. I managed to avoid it Sunday morning.
DD has a much more important benefit: little things are not allowed to build up until they become big problems. For example, if I forgot to set up the coffeepot on Sunday morning and we didn’t have a DD relationship, Mrs. Lion would’ve set it up and probably made no comment to me. The next time I forgot she would feel some resentment. This resentment keeps building up over time if there’s no outlet for it. Eventually, we’d end up having a big fight and lots of hurt feelings.
Because we practice domestic discipline, each and every time I fail to do something I’m supposed to, I am punished. The punishment helps me remember to do what I missed. More importantly, it allows Mrs. Lion to discharge any hurt feelings and anger. When she finally puts her paddle away, the slate is clean. If I forget again, the paddle comes out again and I probably get an even stronger spanking. No matter how many times I fail to do what I’m told, there is an immediate outcome. This punishment is a powerful educational tool for me. Perhaps more importantly, it’s a way for Mrs. Lion to discharge any annoyance and feel good again about me and our relationship.
We don’t fight. It’s not because I know that if I disagree too strongly I will be spanked. I don’t think I will if I do that. It’s that we don’t have a pool of resentment on either side that leaks out and turns into arguments. If I do become argumentative, I know that Mrs. Lion will settle the argument with her paddle. So far, in the years we have been doing DD, this hasn’t been necessary.