Lion was on his best behavior last night when we watched Grey’s Anatomy. It’s a good thing because it was mostly soap opera. Aside from one of the character’s uncle being sick and subsequently dying, there was no hint of medicine in the show.
On the other hand, one of the characters is a very strong woman who is used to having her way. Even though she was wrong in her assumption she was very bitchy and seems to live to make other people’s lives miserable. Every story needs a villain. Lion may want me to be a little more assertive like her but not to the extent that I would be vindictive. That’s okay. I don’t think I could be vindictive. I’m not even sure I will ever be as assertive as he wrote about in this morning’s post. I can only do what I can do. However, I never thought I’d get as far as I’ve gotten so all bets are off.
When my kids were little, I’d give them quick swats on a diapered butt when they didn’t listen. When I was little, my father used to swat me when I didn’t listen. I don’t remember him hitting me. I remember his hand coming at me once but I don’t remember it connecting. I can’t say I blocked it out because it was horrible. I remember other horrible things that happened to me when I was little. I just think he didn’t have to do it enough to make a lasting impression.
My parents ruled the roost together. Neither was in charge. Neither was the bad guy. I remember more than one instance in which I asked to go somewhere and got the perpetual “ask your mother/father”. Finally I’d stand in the middle until I got an answer.
Being a strong woman was not held in high regard. Being a weak woman wasn’t either. It was just assumed I’d be a good person and that was that. Marriage was never pushed nor discouraged. Things just were.
I’m sure my entire family would be shocked to hear that I punish Lion. Sometimes I’m shocked myself. It’s not something that I aspired to. That said, making my spouse happy is something I aspired to. Of course, I’d have to be happy too. As long as both boxes are checked then everything is good. And everything is definitely good.