new spanking positionI got Lion fairly bloody with yesterday’s spanking. I chose the lighter tenderizer and the pointy side really cuts in. I even splattered blood a few times. The only problem is that my paddle is now stained. I tried cleaning it with alcohol but it didn’t work very well. I guess once I draw blood I have to stop using that paddle. Or keep using it and just gain more blood as a reminder that I’m a very mean spanker.

I’ve started spanking a bit further down Lion’s legs too. I know he’s told me it’s safe to hit upper thighs but I haven’t done it before. Actually, I’ve done it by mistake and he’s given me credit for doing it on purpose. Either way, I’m a little braver now so I’m venturing south. I’m not sure if it’s safe to make the thighs bloody but I don’t think I want to anyway.

It’s not like I start out trying to make Lion bleed. I’m looking for rosy cheeks. And if bruises happen, that’s a bonus. I don’t see blood as a bonus. Sure, it means I’ve hit hard, but Lion’s skin is so sensitive sometimes brushing against a wall makes him bleed. Blood is just something to be conscious of and make sure there isn’t too much.

After I cleaned the excess blood off Lion, I put a towel down on the bed. He wasn’t bleeding badly but I wanted to make sure he didn’t get any on the comforter. When he moved the towel out from under him, he said it needed to be spot-treated. I wonder if he thinks we won’t need the towel again. He has more spankings to come. We’d better keep that towel handy.

Lion said he was horny after his spanking, but then he dozed off and it wasn’t till latet that I tried to play with him. It didn’t really work. I didn’t think it would so late. We’ll have to try earlier tonight. Maybe an earlier spanking too. We have three days left of our long weekend. We have to make it count.

[Lion — Actually, the spanking wasn’t a cruel bloodbath. The pointy side of the tenderizer paddle tends to either create small dot-shaped bruises or break the skin. For some very ironic reason, it’s difficult to bruise my bottom but very easy to draw blood. The blood doesn’t signify I got a severe beating. Almost any paddle will produce it. In fact, I don’t have any sore spots today, the day after. Click here to see the aftermath of my spanking.]

Erworried lion(Noon, July 4) So far it’s been a quiet day here in the Lions’ den. The dog woke us up at 8 AM. After lounging for a while Mrs. Lion served us breakfast in bed. We then watched a couple of quiz shows on TV then got up to take care of our morning chores. So far, Mrs. Lion hasn’t made any comment about spanking me. I remain wild with my Cherry Keeper cage and my Jail Bird on my nightstand. I’m not complaining. It’s fun being a wild lion at least for a while.

Mrs. Lion and I are taking today (Friday) off so we can have a nice, long weekend. I have some work to do, but I can handle that while Mrs. Lion enjoys some alone time. Even though it’s been only three days since my last orgasm, I’m feeling frisky and horny. Thursday is punishment day and I remembered to remind Mrs. Lion first thing in the morning. Maybe I should have kept quiet. No, I shouldn’t have. If I did, it would be the third time in as many weeks I’ve failed to tell her of a punishment day. I’m sure the third offense would earn me a lot more punishment than I want. Also, it would be dishonest.

Mrs. Lion had to leave work early on Wednesday so she could drive me to doctors’ appointments. I’m having some trouble with my eyes and nearly every week I have to see one or two ophthalmologists. This is costing her work hours that she needs. I feel badly about that, but I can’t drive myself right now.

Both of us are naked. I am because it’s a rule. She is perhaps because I am. During the day, I often wear a T-shirt because it’s a bit chilly. The only time anything is covered the lower part of my body in the last week was when we went to the city for my doctors appointments on Wednesday. You can safely assume that my ass is bare every time I write a post or answer a comment. I’m not sure that makes any difference to you. Consider it a fun fact.

One of the most significant ways that Mrs. Lion and I are different from one another is that I am a planner and she likes to do things spontaneously. Over the years we’ve been together, we’ve adapted to each other and this seemingly large difference rarely causes any friction. The only notable exception is when I anticipate a spanking or play and Mrs. Lion appears to make no move to execute it. She is likely to have forgotten that she wanted to do it in the first place. I hate to remind her because very often it feels like I’m nagging her.

Maybe we need to have a “meeting” and create a list of what we agree we will do. That will certainly make things easier for me and spare her my anxiety. Topics like when we will play or a punishment will be administered, when I might get locked back up in a chastity device, things like that could be determined at the meeting. I know that in the past, Mrs. Lion would put indications of her plans in her posts. She stopped doing that when she realized that I would be disappointed if she didn’t get around to doing what she wrote she planned to do. By under promising, she doesn’t have to worry about disappointing me. While that’s true, I’m left anxiously worrying about when something we discussed might happen.

This gets magnified by my lack of human contact. Since I’m housebound, I have a lot of time to think about potential fun and worry that I may have misunderstood Mrs. Lion’s intentions. I think that if we are both very explicit and realistic, we can eliminate that source of tension.

This isn’t unique to us. In virtually any power exchange, the submissive member is expected to simply wait to see what his dominant partner does. Human nature being what it is, it’s impossible for that submissive guy to have no expectations. While in theory, he should just patiently wait and be grateful for what he gets, a much better bond will form if there is a clear understanding of what’s coming next. That doesn’t mean that if, for example, Mrs. Lion promises to put clothespins on my balls, and then finds herself exhausted after work, that she can’t change the plan.

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Tenderizer paddle

What it means is that at the least, she owes an early warning to me that what I anticipated isn’t going to happen when she expected to do it. For me, it’s the waiting for something that never happens that hurts the most. If she informs me of the change as early as she can, then I won’t be waiting. I may be a little disappointed, but that’s considerably easier to handle than waiting for something that never comes.

(6 PM) Mrs. Lion gave me my requested spanking. She chose one of our two tenderizer paddles. She was as good as her word. She used both sides of the paddle. You can see the red spots on my butt where she used the pointy side. I won’t say that I should have been careful about what I asked for, I got exactly what I wanted. She is silent about whether this is the only spanking I will receive this weekend. My guess is that it isn’t.

lion watchI was tired yesterday. Judging from his snoozing while watching television, Lion was tired too. When Lion woke up, he asked if I wanted to snuggle. He then asked if there was a reason for the second night in a row of platonic snuggling. I said I was tired, but I set about playing with my weenie. I don’t know if Lion wasn’t really interested or if I actually kept dozing off, but we didn’t get very far. We’ll do better over the next four days. I promise.

Lion says he was joking when he was happy to be spanked for four days. He might have been, but I also know he’d love it if it happened. He might not like it so much if I make him bloody. Nah. He would.

In a post a few days ago, Lion said punishment and play spankings are the same. He also said he thinks I haven’t been hitting as hard during punishments. First things first: During a play spanking, I start off with my hands. I take time to run my hands and fingernails across his rosy cheeks. I even kiss those rosy cheeks. And I have also been known to bite them. I do not do those things when I punish him. Play spankings are more intimate. The only time I touch his cheeks with my hands during punishment is when I’m inspecting for bruises or checking to make sure he’s not bleeding too much.

Secondly, I thought I was hitting harder than ever during punishment spankings. I’ve drawn more blood. Maybe I haven’t bruised him too much, but I thought I was meaner. It’s times like these that I think we need a spanking machine. I’d set it to turbo and let ‘er rip. Not hitting as hard. Geez! What’s a girl gotta do? Apparently I need to start working out. Do you think it’s too much to ask a personal trainer what muscles I need to improve for spanking?

As I went off to write my post, Lion asked if we were going to “get together” today. Presumably because I didn’t spank him last night, that means he’s behind. (No pun intended.) I’m not sure if he’s asking so he can take a boner pill or he’s just trying to steel himself for a beating. Either way, it’s early. In the past, Lion has said he’s not a morning person when it comes to sex. I wonder if that goes for punishment too. Would he get excited knowing a spanking was coming at 9 a.m.? I know I’m not excited by that prospect but if he’s really not excited by it then it might be worth it. Set the alarm for 4 a.m. and we’d have trouble.

Rest assured, Lion will see some action today. When? How about now? Now? Maybe now. Relax, my pet. It will happen.

lion being spanked
It’s official! I’m a real lion! I did a Bing image search for “lion being spanked”. This is the second image displayed. It’s me. How about that?
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Let me wish a happy Independence Day to all of our US readers. I don’t usually address you as part of a collective, but this holiday is one where all Americans should look for ways to feel united. I realize this is very challenging for most of us, but we all share a hope for a better tomorrow for our country.

I’ve never been much of a fan of pornography. Watching other people have sex doesn’t get my motor running. But there is one kind of porn that will turn me on if I’m in the right mood. I’ll bet you can guess what it is: the man being spanked by a woman. Generally speaking, a casual search of the web yields pretty uninteresting spanking porn. Of the few I’ve watched, each one begins with a guy who has an already-spanked rear. Is that because some sort of warm-up has taken place before the camera rolled?

I’ve pretty much given up looking for spanking videos. It’s been a long time since I got an erection watching one. The short video above feels authentic and I would love to experience that spanking. It’s sort of ironic that I would gravitate toward an obviously painful spanking as my take on porn. I’m sure you’re not surprised by my choice.

The only nudity in this video is the guy being spanked exposing his butt to his wife. I think the fact that his wife is fully dressed adds to the experience. She’s making no attempt to look or act sexy. It’s clearly a scene of pure discipline. When Mrs. Lion spanks me, she is generally naked. She usually does it after she gets out of the shower. Having us both naked adds a little bit too much of a sense of equality for me. But then, most important is that Mrs. Lion is comfortable and I’m not.

I wonder about scenes like the one in the video. It doesn’t look like a professional production. It looks like the couple themselves put a camera on a tripod and went to it. Now that’s my kind of home movie! Maybe Mrs. Lion and I could try one over the long weekend. I have the equipment and the editing software. I’ll ask her.

I sent Mrs. Lion an email yesterday (July 3) letting her know I’ve been thinking about getting spanked. She wrote back that we have a four day weekend to take care of spanking. She replied that she didn’t say four days of spanking. However, she said I would be getting plenty of spanking including one tonight (July 3). Oh boy!

It may seem confusing that spanking is something we do “just because” and as a punishment for me. I admit that in the beginning of our Female Led Relationship with Discipline (FLRD), it seemed to me that it would be confusing to use the same activity for “fun” and punishment. After all, both kinds of spankings should be identical in both strength and ferocity.

Mrs. Lion initially tried making the “play” spankings a little different by building up intensity more slowly. She also used her hand as well as an implement. From my perspective it was a difference without meaning. The ultimate objective was to give me a sore bottom I would feel for some time after the swatting ended. I finally suggested that from the perspective of administration, a spanking is a spanking. I didn’t think there was any particular value in trying to differentiate a punishment from a scene.

In the beginning I tried to suggest that a play spanking would be different because it would end when I felt I had enough. A punishment would end only when Mrs. Lion decided she had made her point. Then, Mrs. Lion decided to do “experiment” spankings. These were, if anything, more severe than her punishments. The objective was to train both of us to manage more ferocious beatings. The outcome of the experiments was frequently bruises on my backside and lots of squirming and yelping. I liked the intensity.

Punishments continued to be less intense than the experiments. I’m still unsure why this was the case. More recent spankings, while producing some spots of blood (just because I have capillaries very close to the surface, not because the beating is particularly severe), are milder than either the old experiments or earlier punishments. Maybe this is why I’ve asked for a spanking or two or three…

It may be that spankings that are given for a reason, like a punishment, are in some sense not as consensual as spankings I request or are offered just for fun. That could put a little bit of guilt on Mrs. Lion and perhaps make her back off a bit when she punishes me. I think this is something we should work on changing. If anything, a punishment spanking should be much more like her experiments than recent punishments. I think requested spankings should rise to exactly the same intensity as experiments and punishments.

A spanking is a spanking. I don’t think I’d ever be confused between a punishment spanking and one given for maintenance or just the hell of it. For one thing, the non-punishment spanking is very likely to be given only if I am in the mood to get one. The punishment spanking is delivered without any concern about whether or not I want it. The biggest difference is that Mrs. Lion makes it very clear that I’m being punished for doing something wrong. She usually makes me tell her what I did to deserve it. The pain that follows is firmly associated in my mind with my sin.

I think that the two of us over thought the significance of an activity that I like recreationally and that also doubles as serious punishment. As it turns out, there is no need to change how I’m punished in order to let me know what kind of spanking I am getting. When I’m being punished, I’m not confused about getting a recreational spanking. There is no need for Mrs. Lion to change her technique in any way based on the reason she is paddling me.

Okay Mrs. Lion?

[Mrs. Lion – I disagree. During play spankings I sometimes massage Lion’s buns or kiss them. This certainly wouldn’t happen during punishment spankings.]