Last night was our first football spanking game. Sadly, the Giants didn’t win. I also lost! Mrs. Lion used her “tenderizer” paddle (smooth side) for score keeping. Each point Atlanta scored earned me one hard swat. Giant points got me less painful hits. My bottom was red and sore by the end of the fourth quarter.
In addition, she used the shock collar to zap me under my balls each time there was a penalty. There were a few. She was kind to me and her zaps were short and not too strong. Still, it is a very uncomfortable feeling. It felt strange to hope no one scored, but I did. After the game, we agreed that we would continue with this game, playing once per weekend. We often watch more than one game a week. Of course, Mrs. Lion will decide which game.
This is the first spanking game we’ve played that works for both of us. Mrs. Lion said that she had a good time playing. I think activities like this are good for us. They playfully reinforce our power exchange. More importantly, they turn the passive, solitary activity of watching TV into an exciting interactive game.
For the record, Lioness 2.0 is firmly in residence. She acted pleased that my bottom was red and sore. She showed no sign of reducing the impact of her spanking as I got redder. That’s what I hoped would happen. Too much empathy can spoil a game, and, for that matter, a punishment.
Speaking of punishments, I earned one yesterday at lunch. I spilled food on my shirt. I wasn’t punished last night because of the game. I expect that my bottom will be very sore tonight. Mrs. Lion has been less severe with punishments lately. I imagine that’s because a spill on my shirt doesn’t demand a full-scale spanking. Much as I hesitate to say it, I believe that may be a mistake.
It isn’t logical to imagine a punishment for spilling food should be as severe as one for an offense that upsets my lioness. Just like the fine for going ten miles-per-hour over the speed limit is less than one for going twenty over, a spanking for spilling should be less than one for interrupting. That makes sense.
The problem with this logic is that the objective of any punishment is to teach me something. Is the reason for a more gentle spanking that it isn’t as important that I learn to be neat as it is to not interrupt? Objectively, it is. However, the purpose is to educate me. In that light, the test of success is how well I learn.
If this is my first spill in, let’s say a month, then maybe a “reminder” spanking is enough. If my last spill was only a week or two ago, then clearly I didn’t benefit from my prior spanking and need a stronger lesson. The same is true with other behavioral slips. I’m not suggesting that a reminder be a “slap on the wrist” so to speak. Based on our experience, it has to be a very strong spanking for me to remember next time. If I’m told that a second offense will be much stronger, the incentive to be careful is certainly larger.
So far, Mrs. Lion hasn’t used this method of escalating punishments. I think it might be time for her to consider this enhancement. Of course, if she chooses to do this, I need to be informed after my punishment what will happen next time, if there is a next time. That’s where the power lies. If I’m foolish enough to slip up again, I will learn how much worse it can get.
Make no mistake, I’m not fond of this concept at all. I believe I will profit if this structure is added to our disciplinary marriage. Negative reinforcement, for me at least, works best when the stakes go up each time I repeat an offense. Enough, maybe too much, said.