What Is A Proper Reward?

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Mrs. Lion has been thinkng about my suggestion that orgasms be used as rewards. She seems to be stuck on the idea that if orgasms are rewards, I can only have one when I do something extraordinary. I admit that I hadn’t thought that through.

Over the last three years, I’ve gotten an orgasm on average, a bit more than once a week (6 days). Recently, I’ve gotten them even more frequently. I am very happy with this state of affairs.

Saturday night, Mrs. Lion gave me a wonderful oral orgasm. I didn’t earn it by doing anything special. As I look back on the day, there really wasn’t any opportunity to earn that very wonderful orgasm. I’m not sure I like the idea of tying orgasms to my behavior, after all.

That doesn’t mean it was a bad idea. It isn’t. There’s a lot more to think about if it has a chance of fitting into our lives.

Giving me orgasms are acts of love from Mrs. Lion. Is it fair to turn them into currency? It’s repurposing something we both treasure. We both have a large emotional investment in those intimate moments.

I was wrong that orgasms are the polar opposite of spankings. I thought they were because one is total joy and the other massive pain. Yin and Yang. Both are messages of love from Mrs. Lion. They are similar but not the same at all.

OK, maybe orgasms shouldn’t be currency that rewards a good boy then what should? Mrs. Lion proposed withholding edging when I’m naughty. That’s reasonable. Maybe something less extreme could be my reward.

I admit it, I don’t have a clue what that should be. Apparently, it’s much more difficult to reward me than punish me. I guess I’m spoilt. Any thoughts?

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6 Comments

  1. I very much agree with your hesitation about turning an emotional gift into currency – there may be dragons there, I’m afraid…

  2. No suggestions. If Mrs Lion likes orgasms herself or sex, I would suggest that as a reward for you but…
    On another note, I still can’t get your posts to show in my reader. I have no idea why! And to like your posts I have to access them through my manage subscriptions toggle. Then I can like and comment without issue. I suppose the beauty of it is that since you and Mrs Lion are so regular with your posts I can just go in there once a day.

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      I have no idea why you have trouble with your reader. I’m glad you persevere.

  3. I want to hear more about the diapers.

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      Do a site search on “diapers”.

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