The Carrot And The Stick

I got my first “good boy” orgasm on Thursday night. Mrs. Lion went right to work and didn’t stop until I came. It took quite a while. I wasn’t feeling it. I don’t think she did anything wrong. I just wasn’t in the mood. The orgasm felt very good of course.

As it turns out, this was the exact situation I wrote about in my post yesterday. Even though I had waited more than a week, I wasn’t really in the mood at the moment Mrs. Lion decided to get me off. It happens.

Friday, I wasn’t horny. That too is expected. Getting an orgasm reward isn’t that appealing. Again, no surprise there. I don’t think this is a problem. When we first started our FLRD (Female Led Relationship with Discipline), I wasn’t particularly concerned about being spanked. The punishments weren’t very severe. It didn’t matter.

The spankings were severe enough to make an impression. More importantly, I was punished each and every time I broke a rule. Almost without me noticing,  I was conditioned not to do the prohibited behavior. So, if I’m not particularly interested in getting off, it might not matter either.

That’s the thing about conditioning; my conscious cooperation isn’t needed. If, in fact, Mrs. Lion reaches my lizard brain directly, it will move me the direction Mrs. Lion wants.

This may seem way out. But it’s backed by solid It might be considered a form of sexual brain washing. Of course, it isn’t. But it is conditioning. I’m pretty sure it will work if we keep it up. Well, I have to keep it up. Mrs. Lion just has to do it.

Submission is active obedience. In its pathological form, it’s destructive obedience. That’s the sort of stuff that BDSM horror stories are about. Constructive submission improves both dominant and submissive. It makes the submissive a better, more-complete person, and the dominant into a loving, loved leader.

We have work to do. As Mrs. Lion pointed out. That will take some serious thought. Perhaps we should start the way we did with punishment: Mrs. Lion selects chores I don’t like doing and make successfully completing them as orgasm-worthy. Failing to complete successfully would earn a punishment; the carrot and the stick.



  1. You know it’s the weirdest thing. Despite following you on WordPress, your posts will not appear in my reader. Further when I try to like them, I can’t. I have to do a Backdoor run to be able to like them. It’s an annoyance that I can’t quite figure out. I may try unfollowing you and then refollow. Perhaps that will solve the issues.

    1. Author

      Please let me know what you learn.

      1. Unfollowed and then refollowed you. Your posts still don’t show. If I wasn’t emailed them I wouldn’t see them at all

  2. Perhaps a vibrator, like a “pocket rocket”, or the always effective Magic Wand, held directly on your “sweet spot” would make Ms. Lion’s job easier. I’d guess that she could get you from zero to finished in about two minutes, regardless of your mood at the time – erection not even required.

    I’m not sure how much this would all be for her, though…

    1. Author

      I think it depends on Mrs. Lion’s intention. If she wants to tease me and have fun, she’ll probably want to use her hand or mouth. But if it is a ‘good boy’ reward, then the vibe might be easier. We don’t have a vibrator with us on this trip.

  3. That last sentence was supposed to be:

    “I’m not sure how much FUN this would all be for her, though…”

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