I got my first “good boy” orgasm on Thursday night. Mrs. Lion went right to work and didn’t stop until I came. It took quite a while. I wasn’t feeling it. I don’t think she did anything wrong. I just wasn’t in the mood. The orgasm felt very good of course.
As it turns out, this was the exact situation I wrote about in my post yesterday. Even though I had waited more than a week, I wasn’t really in the mood at the moment Mrs. Lion decided to get me off. It happens.
Friday, I wasn’t horny. That too is expected. Getting an orgasm reward isn’t that appealing. Again, no surprise there. I don’t think this is a problem. When we first started our FLRD (Female Led Relationship with Discipline), I wasn’t particularly concerned about being spanked. The punishments weren’t very severe. It didn’t matter.
The spankings were severe enough to make an impression. More importantly, I was punished each and every time I broke a rule. Almost without me noticing, I was conditioned not to do the prohibited behavior. So, if I’m not particularly interested in getting off, it might not matter either.
That’s the thing about conditioning; my conscious cooperation isn’t needed. If, in fact, Mrs. Lion reaches my lizard brain directly, it will move me the direction Mrs. Lion wants.
This may seem way out. But it’s backed by solid behavioral.science. It might be considered a form of sexual brain washing. Of course, it isn’t. But it is conditioning. I’m pretty sure it will work if we keep it up. Well, I have to keep it up. Mrs. Lion just has to do it.
Submission is active obedience. In its pathological form, it’s destructive obedience. That’s the sort of stuff that BDSM horror stories are about. Constructive submission improves both dominant and submissive. It makes the submissive a better, more-complete person, and the dominant into a loving, loved leader.
We have work to do. As Mrs. Lion pointed out. That will take some serious thought. Perhaps we should start the way we did with punishment: Mrs. Lion selects chores I don’t like doing and make successfully completing them as orgasm-worthy. Failing to complete successfully would earn a punishment; the carrot and the stick.