Sexual Punishment And Reward

punishment stool
Lion’s punishment stool. We have a square of the same material to put on Lion’s chair in the camper.

Mrs. Lion informed me that my next orgasm might be on Sunday. That would be eleven days of waiting. But there’s a catch. She also said that if I misbehave, in addition to spanking and other punishments, she will add a day or two or more to my wait time. This is the first time she’s tied sex in with discipline. The stakes are going up. There’s no question that I hate to be punished. The spankings are very painful and being made to sit on the punishment stool or soaping my mouth are no fun either.

OK, I like to be spanked in the context of play. Thinking about a spanking can get me aroused. I even window shop (on the Web) for spanking implements. But when the time comes for me to lie across the bed to be punished, it doesn’t take long for any arousal to disappear. Lest I forget, Mrs. Lion reminded me that we have a lion-butt-sized square of the same mean material that covers her punishment stool. This fits nicely on the cushion of my dining room chair in the camper. It’s stowed and ready for her use.

Bad boys have to wait. Good boys get to come — a lot!

Lioness 3.0 seems to be inclined to adding additional “activities” to her punishment regime. She’s also going to make me pay by prolonging my wait for the next orgasm. I find that idea exciting to think about. I’m sure I will be upset when she makes me wait longer.

When it comes to deciding how long I should have added to my wait, we disagree. She thinks a day or two will make her point. From the distance of not having a longer wait sentenced, I think the extension should be longer. I’m pretty sure I can be philosophical about waiting two more days; not so much about a week. A couple of days is more like a game. A week or more is really punishment.

When you consider that my average wait is about six days, adding a week is effectively doubling that. Even if I’ve been waiting for eleven days, being told I will now be waiting double that would make an impression. Since I know that I will be getting nightly edging, the time will go very slowly for me. If during that p;punishment wait I get into trouble, I will take extending my sentence very seriously.

If Mrs. Lion adopts this policy, I think my conditioning will be stronger. Punishment will not only hurt me but will also withhold something I want. There’s another side to this coin. An orgasm can be a powerful reward. A good-boy handjob administered as close to the behavior as possible is also strong positive conditioning. Even if I’ve had an orgasm the night before, the reward has a lot of value. It may not be easy coming too soon after an orgasm, but the value of the reward won’t be lost.

Even if the orgasm is only hours after another, it doesn’t matter that it won’t feel wonderful. I’m learning to associate pleasing Mrs. Lion with sexual gratification and displeasing her with not being able to ejaculate. It’s a very primal punishment/reward combination. It may seem odd that an orgasm I am not really ready to have is a reward. But it is. Ejaculation, is the most basic male pleasure. I won’t remember that I wasn’t in the mood. I will remember that I got to ejaculate because I was good.

I think that this is truly coopting profound male pleasure as a tool for control. In a very real sense, it’s not about giving me a good (or bad) time. It’s about me learning to associate sexual relief with obedience. A scheduled orgasm is supposed to be a fun gift from Mrs. Lion. A reward orgasm is the behavioral reverse of a spanking. Be bad, get spanked and wait longer to come., Be good get to ejaculate. More important than that, sex is now closely associated with how I behave: good or bad.

(Continued tomorrow)

4 Comments

  1. I tend to agree with you about it being better for the orgasm extension to be longer, such as week. However, another idea might make the threshold for a delay to be much lower – a single moment of displeasure adds a day or two.:

    Ms. Lion: “So, I was thinking…”

    Caged Lion: ” Me too! Why don’t we go out for dinner!”

    ML: “You interrupted me – that’s another two days.”

    CL: “Awww!”

    ML: ” OK – three.”

    CL:” …”

    You get the idea.

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      I wonder how effective that would be for me. After all, I’ve got years of being made to wait under my belt.I’m not sure that sort of delay would reach me.

  2. Well, it seems to me that you’re pretty good at tracking things. I wonder if you would think differently as your time until orgasm kept increasing past a week, or two, and wasn’t getting any closer. For me, I find that as long as the teasing is very regular (which it seems like yours is), I really find myself wanting that wait to be over – especially if the time is increased *during* the teasing session.

    However, I think there’s another issue in your situation: I think Ms. Lion feels that she should be able to give you an orgasm any time she pleases, whether or not it’s according to some schedule. This sort of “punishment” doesn’t work so well with the paradigm.

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      I completely agree, Mark. Delaying orgasms isn’t going to be an effective punishment in our relationship. I think Mrs. Lion’s current toolkit (spanking, soaping, corner time, etc.) is very effective keeping me in line.

What do you think?