I spent yesterday with my son. Lion visited with us as much as he could but he was really not feeling well. We all went out to dinner and then I dropped Lion home so I could take my son back to the army base. By the time I got home I was exhausted. And a bigger cough had started.

This morning Lion was still a mess. I went to work but left at lunch time because we had a repairman coming and Lion was in no condition to deal with it. My plan was to write a post and do some laundry. My cough and a sore throat prompted a long nap beside Lion.

When i mentioned that neither of us had written posts in a few days, Lion said he couldn’t make it out of bed. So here I am. We’re still alive.

[Lion — fever is up. I’ll post when I can.]

I’ve had a stuffy/runny nose and a slight cough since January. That’s how colds normally work with me. Recently my boss got the flu. At least that’s what she assumes it was. Fever, chest and head congestion, etc. Last night Lion said he felt like he was getting sick his throat was sore, his head was stuffy. He said I probably brought it home from work with me. It’s long been a joke of ours that I don’t really get sick, I’m just a carrier. Typhoid Mrs. Lion.

Lion will be in bed for a few days. Unfortunately, we’re supposed to take my son to dinner tomorrow. I hope Lion can remain vertical long enough to go with me. In the meantime, I’ll be playing nurse. I don’t mind. I just wish there was a way to make Lion feel better.

I was going to lock him back up last night but if he doesn’t feel well it’s just one more thing to worry about. If I thought it would give him warm fuzzies to worry about standing up or sitting down while peeing, I’d put the cage on in a heartbeat. If I thought he’d get any comfort out of being pinched while trying to find a position in bed where he could breathe, he’d be locked up. But I don’t. He’s certainly not going to try to masturbate while he’s sick. There’s very little risk he will while he’s not sick. At this point the cage is more of a reminder that I own my weenie. That’s less important than getting him well right now.

Lion clarified something for me from my post yesterday. I said he would have listened to me if I told him to stop masturbating. I didn’t think he’d need the cage for that when we first started. He disagrees. I guess we’ll never know.

My weenie was sore last night. Actually the sore was weenie-adjacent. The ring was rubbing. There was no red mark or any indication of a sensitive area. I took Lion’s word for it.

Lion doesn’t normally play games so I usually trust him. There have been a few times over the years that I’ve wondered if he’s done something on purpose to see what kind of reaction he’ll get. It usually involves a punishment though. For example, did he spill something on his shirt on purpose so I’d punish him? Has he been interrupting me a lot today to see if I notice? I’ve concluded he is not willful like that.

I think one of the most important things in a marriage is trust. Ironically, a chastity device  seems to indicate lack of trust. Why would I need to lock Lion up if I trust him? Actually I could have just told Lion I didn’t want him to masturbate any more and he would have stopped. So why all the fanfare?

That silly cage made me think about sex again. He was locked up and helpless and I was the only one who could help him. Poor Mr. Weenie was trapped. It was up to me to make sure he got out of solitary confinement from time to time. It may not have sparked interest in sex for me but it has brought us closer together. Even on nights we don’t play we’re still holding hands or snuggling. We still go through periods of not actually playing in the BDSM sense of the word but I edge him most nights.

The other thing a chastity device would seem to suggest is that I want Lion to have less sex. Lion’s had more orgasms per year than he did when he was masturbating. I love giving Lion orgasms. Chastity, for us, does not mean making Lion wait a long time between orgasms. His longest wait has been 28 days. That’s way too long for me. I prefer a week or less. Lion prefers four days. He does like a longer wait thrown in every now and then. The longer wait being about a week. Let’s not get too carried away. When he’s horny he’s horny.

Assuming the sore spot is better tonight Lion will be locked away again. I think he’s more comfortable in captivity.

Penis jewelry. Steelwerks specializes in elaborate, expensive chastity devices.

I’m wild right now. My base ring (I own the ring. She owns the cage.) was irritating me yesterday. That happens once in a great while. The cage will go on again later today. It’s fun being wild; even for a little while. I’ve been thinking about why guys where chastity devices. It’s not a simple question. It seems to fall into a few categories.

The first is for the excitement of a sexy game. The solo chastity device wearers mostly fall into this group. It’s exciting to make it impossible to get relief until a certain date. Solo sex becomes much more exciting. There are web sites that act as surrogate keyholders. Some people claiming to be dominant women, will hold keys and return them by mail. They also offer some BDSM activities to spice things up further. It’s a way to satisfy the need for sexual control without a partner.

The second surprised me a little. Some guys wear chastity devices as a kind of jewelry. Very expensive devices are custom made out of exotic metals and in unique designs. Some can cost as much as $5,000 USD. (In comparison, the average Mature Metal custom device is about $400 USD) The device is as much fashion statement as penis control. The keys are held by the guy wearing the device. He’ll tend to have a growing collection of these items. They are rarely used for access prevention.

The third group is the men who have a partner and use the chastity device as a form of sexual play. The device isn’t worn full time. It goes on as a sort of sexual game between the partners. It can be part of BDSM scenes , or just a weekend sex game. This is probably the largest group. The only problem is that because the devices are worn for relatively brief periods, they tend to be the inexpensive plastic or Chinese steel devices that aren’t very comfortable to wear.

The fourth and smallest group are couples who have incorporated enforced male chastity into their lifestyle. Mrs. Lion and I are members of that segment. I’m in my fifth year of being locked into a male chastity device. Mrs. Lion holds all the keys. I wear a Mature Metal Jail Bird. This device was custom made. Over the years, it’s been sent back for adjustments to make it fit more perfectly. Most of the guys who wear devices 24/7 have custom cages. They offer the most comfort.

There are many shades of each type of wearer. You can see there are many options to explore this interesting kink. What started for us as a sexy fantasy has developed into an important part of our lives.