Should I Be Locked Up Again?

Wearing a chastity device is clearly my thing. Mrs. Lion has said that if I want to wear it, she would put it back on me. I got the feeling that if I then decide I am tired of it, she would unlock me. She doesn’t see that it has any particular value in our power exchange.

I agree. Its ostensible purpose is to prevent me from getting sexual satisfaction unless she provides it. I’m well past the point of masturbating on my own. I’ve been unlocked more than six months and I haven’t felt tempted to get myself off. I do get hard now and then. I like that. But I have no serious interest in unauthorized ejaculation.

I can’t explain this. Even when I was severely horny, when I was teased, but not allowed to come for 28 days, I wasn’t tempted. Almost four years of continuous lockup seems to have conditioned me to get sexual satisfaction exclusively from my lioness. I’m not sure how she feels about this. I wonder if my conditioning pleases her. She’s never said.

I’m trained and that’s it. I would have a hard time changing. This brings up a critical male chastity premise: A male will get sexual satisfaction without his partner unless physically restrained. I’m sure there are guys who actually need to be locked up to avoid “mistakes”. I wonder how their partners feel about this.

The essence of our power exchange is my surrender. Yes, I accept punishment for failing to obey one of Mrs. Lion’s rules. I don’t try to break a rule. I feel strongly that the essence of our agreement is my willing submission. Punishment is used to focus my attention on changes I need to make. It isn’t meant to be an activity to correct willful disobedience.

My fantasies have me resisting authority and then strongly disciplined for my disobedience. In my mind this is very hot. However, in real life it hasn’t turned out that way. I find myself working hard to obey, even when I truly hate what I have to do.

In any case, wearing a chastity device has no place in our power exchange. If Mrs. Lion wants to punish me by withholding sexual attention, the device isn’t necessary to keep me from taking things into my own hands. I won’t do that. She knows I won’t. It would be a serious betrayal if I did.

I think I want to be locked up. But if I control whether or not I’m caged, it feels a little silly to me. The only real value the device could have would come if once locked up, I lose the ability to be unlocked. Even though wearing a cage is unimportant to Mrs. Lion, she would have to strictly enforce my lockup for it to satisfy my fantasy.

If Mrs. Lion locks me up, I want the chastity to be strict. Since I have a comfortable nylon device, I could remain locked even when I travel. I want that. My thought is that since being caged is something I might want (I’m still not sure I don’t want to stay wild), once locked up, I lose any chance to be wild when unsupervised. If I get an emergency key, I want it to be as inaccessible as possible.

It’s a tricky situation. I would only be caged because I ask for it. This is no different than when we first started and Mrs. Lion locked me up. The tricky part is that since she has no real investment in whether or not I wear a device, she would have to decide to make it important. Only when being caged is as important to her as the rest of our power exchange, would it reach me as something I might have wanted, but now she owns.

Well, that’s how I think about all this. Just as I wrote over four years ago, once Mrs. Lion agrees to lock me up, I lose any ability to control the device’s use. The keys are hidden from me. The lockup can’t be symbolic with the key sitting on Mrs. Lion’s nightstand. For me, at least, it needs to be real. That’s why I don’t want an emergency key. I want to feel that I have absolutely no way to release myself.

That’s my view. The reason I get excited about being caged is that It prevents any way for me to access my penis. Any ability to get the key destroys that. For me, at least, as long as I have any ability to unlock myself, the feeling of bondage isn’t the same.


  1. Author

    I am new to the world of male chastity within married couples. First of all, thank you for this blog!
    Just like you say here, in our case, wife has little interest in keeping me in a cage, and in fact wife even thinks it’s unhealthy being caged at night so I am free and locked when I want to. It’s as if she has nothing to do with that cage… except she requires me to take it off periodically.
    Effectively I am wearing it strictly for my reasons.
    What are those reasons?
    I never cheated on wife but as a heterosexual guy living a normal life in the world I constantly run into situations where I see attractive women. I have always been super vulnerable to feeling aroused when that happens. I also quickly get excited when I see a picture of a woman in a revealing attire… and it doesn’t have to be a bikini… even a sleeveless top would do it for me. On the other hand… wife can tolerate me running into such a situation but she doesn’t like me feeling excited about it. I on the other hand am fully aware that I have a tendency to remember that picture hours later… and then I am likely to get hard down there… sometimes to the point that I will have to masturbate and ejaculate just to get out of the bothersome situation where I am unable to focus on anything until this picture leave me… at least for a while… which it does only after I ejaculate.
    Wearing a chastity device is… then… a guarantee for me that I won’t end up doing this act, in those particularly vulnerable moments.
    As already said… wife cares a lot about me not seeking sexual pleasure from looking at other women. She doesn’t care if I masturbate as long as I am only thinking of her or looking at her.

    1. Author

      It sounds like you and she are thinking in the same direction. The question of wearing a device is obviously not unhealthy if it fits correctly. You may want to ask her to read a bit about enforced chastity. We have a page specifically designed to help prospective keyholders understand (“How To Cage Your Man“) how enforced male chastity works. I suggest you think about what you really want and then talk to her about it. She may end up locking you up more than you might want. 🙂

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