Here we are at the start of yet another year. I don’t feel particularly interested in sex. Too bad. A new year should be greeted by sex; or at least the desire for sex. One of our readers asked a question for our “He Said / She Said” post next week. But the question is really just for me. He wanted to know if I, like him, feel let down and sorry about being caged after I have an orgasm. I don’t.

I get annoyed about being in a chastity device on days when I have been orgasm-free for a while. It’s not that I want the device off so I can jerk off. It just feels unnecessary. Case in point: last night. Mrs. Lion is sick. She has the same rotten cold that I had (have). She was in no mood for doing anything sexual for me. She wanted to sleep if she could stop coughing. I absolutely get it. Then why would I feel grumpy and want out of my cage?

It isn’t that I’m a brat and want to pout because I didn’t get teased. For a while I thought that was what was going on. I realized that while I missed the sexual contact, I fully understood the reason and felt fine about it. The real problem for me is much harder to describe and understand. I’ll try to explain.

My enforced chastity fantasy is about Mrs. Lion locking me up without regard to whether or not I want it or not. Ok, that should mean that I had my dream last night. I was locked and my lioness ignored my plight. In one sense that’s absolutely right. My pr0blem had to do with my expectations. Mrs. Lion has been saying (and writing) that I would have a New Year’s Eve and a New Year’s Day orgasm. I requested that maybe just one of those would be enough.

So, last night I expected that she would at least tell me that she knew there was supposed to be some promised sex, but she didn’t feel well enough to follow through. That would have given me a sense of being remembered. But when the entire night went by without a word, I felt bad. It was obvious that she wasn’t well enough to do anything. I had no expectation of activity. It may be silly, but I wanted her to remember.

There have been many times when I expect an orgasm but end up being edged. That never makes me feel cheated. It’s part of the game. In fact, if instead of a New Year’s orgasm, I just get teased, I would be fine. I think I might even like it. It’s a show of Mrs. Lion’s power. For me, enforced chastity is about power, not sex. So, if last night I was told there would be no teasing, that would be a perfectly fine part of the game.

We had another talk about wait times. In her post, Mrs. Lion pointed out that if I came every 14 days, I would have 26 orgasms this year. I don’t know why she picked that interval. Twenty-six isn’t a magic number. We never set a goal. Many couples do, with the keyholder announcing an annual maximum number of orgasms for the year.

Mrs. Lion says she doesn’t care about things like that. But her post yesterday cited my total for 2016. Her original post said “about 57 orgasms.” I edited it to get rid of the “about.” Actually, we both had it wrong. I had 58 which turns out to be the exact average she was calculating. I think she is influenced by our readers who frequently say I get too many orgasms. As she wrote, I do lose interest after a while. If I go much past two weeks, I am harder to edge and not all that interested in sex. It’s just how I am wired.

There’s another factor: how orgasms feel to me. An orgasm after a wait of less than 10 days feels way better than one after two weeks or longer. Something happens physiologically with me that makes an orgasm after a very long wait almost hurt. It’s not that I don’t want it. Somehow it changes. The answer isn’t to assure my waits are two weeks or less. It’s just that after a long wait, a second orgasm four-days-to-a -week later will feel amazing. This begs the question of whether my keyholder should care about such things.

I don’t think she should. The only reason I mention it is because I wonder if you have the same experience. Is it how we males are wired, or is it just something about me?

I like that I never know (unless she writes about it here) when my next orgasm is coming. Mrs. Lion is really good about keeping me guessing. She is a great keyholder.



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    In a twist of fate, your New Year’s experience, Lion, was almost exactly echoed by mine. I have a regular musical gig at a New Years party every year; this year, my wife wasn’t feeling well so she went home. Since I was part of the headlining group, I of course stayed through midnight, but then went home as soon as was practical. I didn’t expect any sex that night, just wanting to see that my wife was doing OK, but she did tease me for a little while.

    I sort of expected sex yesterday, but she was still feeling poorly. As you said, it wasn’t the lack of sex itself, but the lack of it being addressed in any way. My wife doesn’t quite understand yet how much of a thrill even an off-hand comment during the day (“Of course I’m right – I have the key to your cock.”) can be, but yesterday there was nothing. As you said, I certainly couldn’t be upset at her about that, but I was disappointed.

    Last night, she was feeling somewhat better, so she teased me for quite a while – still no orgasm, however. That’s all right, though; I feel that our sex life is active again even without one.

    On the subject of orgasms after a longer period of denial, I’ve noticed a similar effect (of the orgasm not being as “good” as other times), although the effect varies wildly. In the past, my wife has left me “wild” after an orgasm in the evening, having me lock up again the next morning. Lately, she’s been locking me up again right after sex, which I actually prefer, as it makes the situation feel much more real to me.

    Regardless of whether I’m locked up again or not, she’ll frequently give me a hand job, or possibly have sex again, the next morning (unlocking me again, if necessary). *Those* orgasms feel *fantastic*!

    People are weird…

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    Well at having an average of more than one orgasm a week, you fit the norm of an average uncaged unchastised middle aged married person –once per week.

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      If you add the number of times a week that average guy masturbates each week, I suspect the number is quite a bit higher.

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    The longest I’ve gone is 72 days between orgasms. On the 72nd day we had a fantastic sexual romp. She had numerous orgasms (I could check my journal but who cares exactly how many). Towards the end of things she decided that I should come on her ass. I had been teased a ton over this time frame and was almost jumping out of my skin with horniness. When I blew it was epic. I enjoyed it tremendously. My next orgasm was another 56 days away so it was good that this one was great. I think that as long as you practice kegel exercises regularly your orgasms will still be great–that and a lot of teasing/edging just before you come.

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