Based on our posts over the past few days, you might think we have no idea what we’re doing. I think you’re correct. At least I have no idea what I’m doing. When I tell Lion I don’t know what I should be doing, he tells me there is nothing I “should” be doing. I can do whatever I think is best. Ohhhh…well that makes it all crystal clear. Not.
I know he shouldn’t be telling me what to do. I know many people think I shouldn’t even be listening to his suggestions. But the thing is, with the troubles lately, I do need his help. I can’t know how he’s feeling. I can’t just charge through like nothing else is happening. For one thing, it wouldn’t work. And it would annoy Lion if I insisted on trying to get him hard when he’s not in the mood. Too much stimulation doesn’t feel good.
An internet domme might say it shouldn’t matter. Who cares if he doesn’t want to play? Who cares if he can’t get hard? I’ll whip him until he complies. Uh huh. OK. You do that. I won’t. I care about Lion. I want to know when something is wrong. How else can we fix it? Even if it’s an outside thing like a job, I need to try to make him feel better. That’s my job.
Despite his post saying we just need to soldier on, I’m thinking I’ll leave things the way I said in my post. I’ll unlock him nightly and we’ll go from there. If he’s looking for play, he can tell me. If I’m looking for play, I’ll ask him if he’s ready for it. This is a lifestyle. It’s long term. We both understand there will be speed bumps along the way. We can make it past them.