To be fair, I don’t think I gave it a very good shot. It’s just not something that appeals to me. Not that locking Lion away or punishing him actually appeals to me either, but I can do those things. Being in charge is just not my thing. I’m not abandoning it altogether. There are aspects of it I’ll keep. I am more in charge now than I’ve ever been. I just don’t think we’ll call it FLM.
Lion, as he said, is not a very submissive person. He likes to be submissive in the bedroom, hence the rest of our reindeer games, but he’s one of the most unsubmissive people I know. (Yes, Lion, I know it should be “least submissive”. Pet peeve.) So he will continue to do all the things he normally does and I will do all the things I normally do. It seems to work best for us. I will still try to speak up for myself and take a little more interest in the finances.
At first, I took Lion’s suggestion of abandoning FLM as a failing. Was there something I wasn’t doing that I should be doing? Well, of course there is. I’m not taking charge. But more than that, I think he realized that he didn’t really want me to be in charge. Not completely, at least. Whatever we’re doing doesn’t really meet the definition of FLM so we won’t call it that. I’m not even sure it has a name, or needs one for that matter. Labels are very restrictive. As long as we’re happy doing what we’re doing, no one else should be able to tell us we’re doing it wrong. And if it stops working we can always tweak it. Now that the lines of communication are open again, the sky’s the limit.