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In: Chastity games, Mrs Lion Comments

A number of years ago we played a game involving a timer and a weenie. Lion had a certain length of time to have an orgasm or he had to take a break and try again. I varied the time from 30 seconds to a few minutes. More recently I’ve tried a similar game involving the number and speed of strokes. For example, twenty slow strokes, ten fast strokes, twenty slow strokes, ten fast strokes, etc. The problem with the former is that the goal was for Lion to have an orgasm and that’s not necessarily the goal now. It is possible that I could try to train him not to come within that time frame. He’d have to hold out. I don’t know if I want to do that.

I’ve been trying to come up with a new timer game for a while. It may have to be a hybrid of the two games. Perhaps a timed set for getting him warmed up and then a period of counted strokes. On the other hand, maybe the goal should be to allow him to come if he can do so within the allotted time. You see why this has taken me so long to figure out. There are too many variables. How horny is he? How quickly will he be ready? How many strokes will it take? I’m looking to make things interesting, but not at the expense of my own sanity.

Another idea I had was to set a certain number of times to edge him and if I didn’t break him by then he deserved an orgasm. Do I tell Lion how many tries he has? It could work for or against him. He could be thinking that he just needs to make it three more times and then he gets to come. Or he could think three more times is just too daunting and not be able to do it. I guess that’s all part of the game.

Since none of this really does anything for me, I don’t know what would be fun and what wouldn’t. This is one of the reasons I need Lion’s input. Yes, I’m in charge, but I need to know if I’m missing the mark. If he says something will be difficult for him it doesn’t necessarily mean we won’t try it. Chastity and FLM is all about trial and error.

We’ll put our heads together and come up with a plan. We make a pretty good team.

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In: Male Chastity

It’s been really quiet here. Mrs. Lion is back at work and apparently many of the hiring managers are taking the week off. I truly hate waiting for the phone to ring. I need to find work soon. After Sunday’s explosive orgasm, I figured my interest in sex would be next to nothing. But no, yesterday I was quite horny. I’m glad that I’m still interested in sex. I would not want a repeat of last week’s loss of libido. The long weekend was great fun. It always feels so good when I’m with Mrs. Lion. I didn’t make the same mistake that I did on Friday. I reminded Mrs. Lion that Tuesday is maintenance spanking day. Monday night’s spanking did a good job of reinforcing the point. Maintenance spankings are much easier to take than punishment.

Thursday is my 500th day of enforced chastity. I’m not sure that this is any sort of milestone, but it’s a nice, round number. A lot has changed in those 500 days. My sexuality is completely centered around Mrs. Lion. She, in turn, has remained in firm control of it. While her interest in sex is still lost, her management of mine is skillful and frustrating for me. While it would be preferable for her to regain her horniness, she’s compensated so that my libido doesn’t suffer more than she happily makes it. I can’t complain. It’s exactly what I asked her to do.

Meanwhile, I’ve discovered other, similar souls engaged in enforced chastity. It’s been big fun reading their blogs and following along with their lives. The other day I mentioned that Steeled Snake and his keyholder, Charmer, were playing a very challenging game. Snake was to masturbate 12 times between Friday and Monday night in order to win extra points in a game they play. Sadly, Snake didn’t make 12. He worked hard and did come seven times. I don’t think I could do that well.  Their game uses a point system. As I understand it, Snake must accumulate 1,400 points by the 14th day he is waiting. If he does, Charmer may give him an orgasm. If he doesn’t have enough points, he is ineligible to come until he gets at least 1,400 points no matter how long it takes. If he exceeds that number, he may  be eligible for a bonus orgasm before the 14 days are up. Even if he gets the requisite points before 14 days, Charmer can still make him wait if she wants. They have their own twists on this. Behavioral lapses results in deductions. Extra-good behavior gets bonus points. You can read more about  this on their blog.

This game requires some bookkeeping. Charmer, with Snake’s help I’m sure, keeps track of the current score. It’s a reward based system that leaves plenty of room for Charmer to be arbitrary if she wants. They both like it and are working on refining it further.

I’m learning that there are multiple ways to approach enforced chastity. The Snakes’ system involves keeping score. There is a lot to be said for this system. It offers endless opportunities to incentivize Snake to any behavior his keyholder wants him to adopt. He works for that wonderful reward: ejaculation. I guess the nerd in me is strongly drawn to this sort of game. It’s fun to work for a possible reward. This sort of system never occurred to me. We have a different approach. My orgasms are arbitrarily given to me by Mrs. Lion independent of behavior or accomplishment. Failure to do what I should is punished. So she still has strong control over me.

Incentives and punishments. What a powerful combination that can be. I thought I had this power exchange stuff all figured out. I was wrong. I have a lot more to learn.

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In: Edging, Mrs Lion Comments, Sex

Yesterday wasn’t Lion’s day. Well, it wasn’t supposed to be. According to my calendar he should have waited until June 6 for an orgasm. I think it would have been an 18 day wait. A long time in Lion years. So why did I give in after such a short wait?

After I manscaped him in the sling, I started playing with him. As I was pressed against his buns jerking him off it looked a little like I was jerking myself off. My Lion was moaning and telling me it felt good. I’m not sure why it felt any better than any other time I’ve played with him. Maybe it was the angle. I sucked him for a bit and then went back to using my hand. Eventually he had a tiny drop of pre-cum. He tastes so good I couldn’t help but suck him more. And as I stroked him with my tongue I was rewarded with more pre-cum. Once I tasted it I knew I had to make him come. I alternated between mouth and hand a few more times and then went in for the kill. Lionesses can only play with their food for so long, you know.

There he was, spread-eagle in the sling with a silly smile on his face. He was a happy boy. And I was happy both because I had made him happy and because I got a mouthful of yummy goodness out of the deal. Lion cum is the nectar of the gods. Okay, it’s the nectar of Mrs. Lion. But we were both happy and that’s all that matters.

Lion remembered earlier in the day that it was punishment day. He reminded me like a good boy. Somewhere around 9 pm, during a break in the tv action, I gave him his swats. Six hard swats for forgetting maintenance spanking night and two hard swats for squirming during those first six swats. They were hard swats, but come on, Lion. You need to hold still!

Unfortunately, that was the end of our long weekend together. Fortunately, we have just three days till our next weekend. I love short work weeks.

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In: Lion's Journal

Yesterday, as she promised, Mrs. Lion strapped me into the sling. She took advantage of the opportunity to remove hair as well as play with me. It felt amazing. She edged me over and over. Finally, she took me in her mouth and let me come. It was so intense it hurt. The tip of my penis became instantly sensitive and even her soft tongue felt like sandpaper. But that didn’t matter at all. It was an incredible, intense orgasm. Thank you my lioness. It was a wonderful climax to our weekend. Our session was unusual in that Mrs. Lion took me to the sling at four PM instead of the customary ten PM activity time. I’m not complaining. Oh no! It felt so good to be horny and then, finally after eight days, come.

I realize that eight days isn’t very long to wait in terms of typical enforced chastity scenarios, but it felt like an eternity to me. It’s true that for the first four days I had no interest in sex at all. But my libido returned full force on the fifth. I will be interested to see how I feel the next few days. Is the loss of libido something that will repeat, or was it situational and temporary. The way I feel now, my guess is that I am back to my old, horny self. I am relieved.

We spent the long weekend alternately relaxing and working on our camper, getting it ready for our first weekend away. We work well together and even doing mundane stuff like checking tire pressure and cleaning are fun just because I am with her. I am very lucky to have found her. I’m not sure she got such a great deal in me.

I think that sometimes people forget the purpose of enforced chastity. It is, at its most basic, a power exchange that involves the male turning sexual control over to his keyholder. One way to make him feel this power exchange is to prevent him from coming until his keyholder wants to let him get off. A lot of people interpret this as making the time between orgasms longer and longer. Some even think the male should never ejaculate again. If that’s what the people involved want, then it’s fine. But it doesn’t make their brand of enforced chastity “better” than those who get more frequent orgasms.

Enforced chastity is consensual. I agreed to surrender to Mrs. Lion. She does, in fact, have my permission to make me wait as long as she wants, even if that is far in excess of anything I had ever contemplated. I would hate it, but I did agree. Her perspective is that she agreed to be my keyholder because it is something I want. She understands that I don’t want to control things, so she makes me wait longer than I want, but not so long that I lose hope. So far, she has given me an orgasm about every ten days or so. Often it is less, sometimes more. That’s very effective with me. My moods don’t really swing much due to having ejaculated. Some guys are depressed after they come. Not me. Oh no, not me. I feel fine.

When I am very horny I can be a bit cranky, Mrs. Lion calls it grumbly. But I don’t think I am ever too grumbly. If that should happen, I know I will be spanked for it. Even though we have been at this for almost a year and a half, we still have a lot to learn. Enforced chastity, at least for us, is a work in progress. I am sure that Mrs. Lion will make me wait a lot longer sometimes and, as in the past, give me orgasms after only a few days. It’s what keeps things interesting; and for me, frustrating.