Mrs. Lion thinks it is totally weird that I want to be told, “Good job!” and “Good Boy!”. She’s said that she thinks those phrases are demeaning. I can understand how she feels. But, I really like it. I started thinking about this when I saw the tease and deny video. The keyholder was teasing her male and telling him that she wants to see some precum. Finally, when he produces some, she says, “Good job!” I can’t explain it, but I really like that. It can be that using the phrase to congratulate him shows her superiority and possession of his sexual functions. I didn’t get the impression that it was demeaning. It just sounds exciting to me.
There is a larger point I think. It is the positive side of control. I generally think of control as a force that determines what, if anything I can do. I can’t get an erection or orgasm without Mrs. Lion unlocking me and getting me off. But, as they say on TV, there’s more. She can also praise me for performing in a way she wishes. That praise feels very good. Let’s face it, enforced chastity and sexual control is very primal. It puts me in an almost childlike state in terms of dependence on Mrs. Lion. Maybe that has something to do with why I hope for such praise. Another reason I like it, particularly in a sexual context is that it shows ownership of my sexual responses. Praise for producing percum is a very powerful expression of control.
Logically, that makes no sense. I don’t have conscious control over production of precum. But I wonder if subconsciously I will learn to produce it sooner if I get the reward of praise when it shows up. So much of my sexual response seems to be automatic. Stimulate me and eventually some precum will show and a little later, if stimulated more, I will have an orgasm and release semen. As Mrs. Lion has pointed out, I make much more noise during stimulation than I did before being caged. I am not doing this consciously. I suspect my subconscious decided that Mrs. Lion needa the encouragement of feedback in order for her to continue stimulating me. That’s just a theory. I don’t really know why I changed that way.
A “Good Boy!” after being edged, congratulating me for not coming, could have the effect of making me more aware of when I am close and more verbal to help Mrs. Lion avoid a ruined orgasm. The congratulation rewards me for helping her deny me the pleasure of release. That’s good training, I think. On the other hand, when I have a ruined orgasm, Mrs. Lion apologizes. She knows I don’t like them. I think that’s a mistake. It’s really my fault I came. I know, I can’t help it, but in the same sense I get praise for producing precum, I think I should get a “Naughty Boy!” for a ruined orgasm. I produced semen without Mrs. Lion expecting it.
She, of course, may disagree with all of this. She has the final word. This is all my thinking. It’s just input for my lioness.