As of today, I have been locked in a chastity device for 439 days. During that time, I have been out of the cage about 10 days in total. This includes the roughly 30 minutes every other day for teasing and the occasional orgasm. That means I have been wearing the device 98% of the time for over a year. As far as I can see, that is virtually 24/7. I don’t have an exact tally, but in that time I have had about 40 orgasms. That comes to an average one every 11 days.

During my lockup the actual interval varied considerably between 1 and 21 days. The average man over 40 has 3 orgasms a week. I have one every 1.6 weeks. The average guy has 400% more orgasms than I.  Chances are very good that if I only count 2015, my orgasms per week will be less. Prior to being locked, I had about three orgasms a week, virtually all of them masturbation. What does all this mean? For one thing it means that Mrs. Lion and I are taking enforced chastity seriously. It also means that I am getting less than one-fourth the number of orgasms I would naturally want. However, now they are all given to me by my lovely lioness. That is a big improvement!

While we are on the subject of statistics, I mentioned to Mrs. Lion that more people will see the key she got for her birthday that she wears around her neck than the device that it symbolically unlocks. Her reply, “Are you kidding?”

I thought about her response. She has a right to be incredulous. I did a bit of analysis and realized that almost half a million people have seen pictures of my penis in and out of its cage. Chances are you’ve seen it. If you haven’t and want to, click here. You know about each and every play session and orgasm I have had. In short, our sex life is very public. You know when I am disciplined and how it is executed. We’ve shared our most intimate and in my case, humiliating details right here. We’ve also shared our failures as well as our joys. Since we both read and write for this blog, you have a unique window into our lives. The blog has also given us a window into each other’s feelings. This has been very helpful to us both.

It all doesn’t flow smoothly. We needed a lot of time to reach our current commitment to enforced chastity. We still have a way to go, of course. We are both still learning our relative roles. Life has gone on while we have been on this adventure. I lost my job and we are under a lot of stress trying to make ends meet. Amazingly, this has not affected our enforced chastity or FLR. I am very grateful for that. Our renewed sex life is now a rock in a stormy financial sea. It’s yet another way we are bound together. I’m sure that we will continue our sexual odyssey for the rest of our lives. How cool is that?

Speaking of our sexual adventures, last night I cashed in a Good Lion coupon for an extra play session. Mrs. Lion did some cock and ball bondage, then provided me with some serious edging. She ended the session with some nice non-orgasmic oral attention. Her self control is truly improving. On Thursday night I produced a lot of pre-cum. I don’t normally produce any. I did it again last night. Mrs. Lion noted it. In the Tease and Deny video, the keyholder asks for pre-cum. When she gets some she says, “Good job!” I love that. I asked Mrs. Lion why she never said that. She told me that she thought it was demeaning to me. I laughed. Really? Well, it is still something I would like. It shows ownership of my bodily functions. It makes me feel I am doing it for her. What can I say?

Anyway, that’s my analysis of the numbers. There are lots of other figures we could consider, but this small set gives you a sense of how we are affected by our sharing of our enforced chastity/FLR adventure. I would love to know what, if any effect our blog and our lives have had on you. If you wish, please leave a comment.

Last night was punishment night. Lion reminded me early in the day and again just before 8 pm. He had nothing on his list again. He said he knows he can’t possibly be as good as that. I will have to pay more attention. But I have been paying attention. And he hasn’t done anything that even remotely bothers me. I asked if I should punish him for not making me punish him. Of course I was being facetious. I don’t want him to deliberately misbehave. So what do I do when he’s consistently good? I don’t want to make up rules that mean nothing. Dropping ice cubes means nothing unless he drops the last of the ice cubes and I need some. I’m thinking of resorting to the nit picking things. Why doesn’t he ever wring out the sponge at the kitchen sink? I pick it up and it’s dripping wet. Yuck! Why doesn’t he ever notice that the soap in the shower is running out? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had none. And there is one big(ish) thing that he’s already aware of: why does he wind up with most of the blankets? I joke with him that he just wants me to move closer to him during the night but sometimes I am only half covered in the morning. That’s it, my pet. Three new rules.

Last night was also play night. I started out with my hand but eventually decided he needed oral stimulation. The biggest problem with this is that I am prone to going too far. And don’t think I didn’t want to last night. I can’t believe it’s only been four days (five now) since his orgasm. I really wanted to give him one. I almost did. But then I asked him if he could wait. And when he said he could I told him I didn’t know if I could. In the end I decided to wait. A while later he said he might use his coupon for an extra play session tonight. Will I be able to wait if he does? I’m not sure.

Lion did make a suggestion yesterday. Since I prefer to be able to tell him how many days he has left to wait, maybe I can tell him that he has at least X number of days left. I like the idea, but I think we need to give the mystery date a chance. I don’t want to give up on it without really trying. Maybe when we get to the end of this wait, assuming I don’t blow it by blowing him early, we can try his suggestion. I just need to exercise some self control. And maybe less oral stimulation for him. Poor Lion.

Yesterday, I wrote a post discussing what appear to be changes I have made as a result of my enforced chastity. Mrs. Lion’s post expressed concern that I am changing at all. I can understand that. After all, Mrs. Lion signed up to do all this because it makes my kinky soul happy. The idea that I am experiencing irreversible changes under her watch is a serious responsibility. The changes represent desired results in the context of enforced chastity/FLR* doesn’t change the feelings of guilt that might result from reducing my ability to enjoy sex.

Her post got me thinking. Am I really changing? If we stopped orgasm control today, would my physical responses remain focused only on her? I don’t think so. People who have been in chastity devices for many years report being able to add or change sexual partners without difficulty. Mammals and humans, in particular, are sexually opportunistic. If a potential sexual partner is available, we get more interested in sex. If no partners are available, we lose some of our interest. You may be wondering how masturbation fits into this generalization. Many males, me in particular, find that masturbation stops feeling very good without external stimulation; physical or mental.

What I have recently discovered is that I can be mentally monogamous. I’ve been physically monogamous as long as I have been with Mrs. Lion. I haven’t even considered straying. But I have enjoyed looking at women and occasionally, some porn. Before my lockup when we were having no sex, I used some porn to turn me on for masturbation. I still like looking at pretty women and even some porn. But I don’t physically react to the porn and I can honestly say I don’t imagine having sex with the women I see. I know Mrs. Lion doesn’t mind if I am mentally aroused by other females. I’ve never felt guilty about non-physical arousal or masturbating.

Things changed since January 2014 when Mrs. Lion locked me. Obviously, I could no longer masturbate. Further, Mrs. Lion made it clear that locked or not, I was not allowed to get myself off. The chastity device was in place to assure I wouldn’t. I could still look at girls and porn. I did, of course. After about nine months when reviewing some porn to find a video for this site, I realized that I wasn’t physically responding to things that used to get me straining the bars of my cage. The tease and deny video on this site always got me a chubby. Recently, I changed the way we present it. This required me to reprocess the video. I watched it as it was converted. No chubby. I still love it, but no physical reaction.  That’s was my first hint that something changed.

I think the fact that this change just happened without my knowledge is what concerns Mrs. Lion. She never intended me to refocus all my sexual interest on her exclusively. Based on what she wrote, I think she fears that she has taken away a pleasure I never asked to lose. I’m not upset at this development. After all, isn’t this the way I’m supposed to be?

When I wrote that another woman couldn’t get me off, I think I was exaggerating. If Mrs. Lion did offer a pinch hitter, I am positive she would have no trouble making me hard and if she wanted, orgasm. I don’t think I will ever lose that capability. So, the cage assures no other lioness can gain access to my penis. My commitment to Mrs. Lion guarantees I’m not going to look for one. If any other lioness gets between my legs, it will be at Mrs. Lion’s request. She hasn’t shown any inclination to expand our pride. For that matter, neither have I.

 

I’ve been trying to figure out how I feel about Lion’s post today. So far I feel a little guilty. I never wanted to change him. Of course I’m glad that I can still excite him, but it never bothered me when he got excited by other women. As long as he didn’t stray it was fine. I don’t think he’s ever thought about straying, even when I wasn’t paying much attention to him. The thing that keeps running through my mind is that locking him up has caused him to become some sort of eunuch.

That may be harsh. I know he’s still able to perform. But if other women don’t excite him then how long will it be until I don’t either? Is this a normal by-product of chastity? Should I find him a hooker to test his theory of a pinch hitter? Should I just shut up and be happy that he only has eyes and a hard-on for me?

Is this something that I should be happy about? I mean the whole point is that I own him and he should only get attention from me. But it freaks me out a little. And actually I’m thinking it might be a deal breaker. I’m not okay with this. I’m sure many keyholders are yelling at the computer right now. I’m crazy. Don’t I know this is exactly how things are supposed to work? What’s wrong with me?

I’ll tell you what’s wrong with me. I agreed to do this because it makes Lion happy. If he can’t get aroused by things that used to arouse him then I’ve changed him. I figured he’d always try to get hard in his cage. I thought that would be one of the things that reminded him who was in charge. If I’m dieting and I know I can’t have chocolate that doesn’t mean I don’t still want chocolate. I don’t ever want to get to a point where I don’t want chocolate. I don’t want Lion to get to a point where he doesn’t want sex.

Maybe it’s just a phase. Maybe I don’t need to find that hooker. Maybe I don’t need to give him a vacation from chastity until things “normalize”. Maybe I’m making a bigger deal out of this than it is. I hope.

[Lion — I don’t think the “changes” are that extreme. There are two things at work here: First, I’m getting on in years and erection without physical stimulation are getting rare, even without the cage. Second, there is a “learning” process. If no stimulation is forthcoming if I do get an erection in my cage, then I think I am less likely to get one in the first place. I still find women exciting to see, but I don’t react physically much now. (see reason number one). Upon further thought, I am very sure any woman could get me off if she “pinch hit” for Mrs. Lion. Most important, my lioness is making me very happy by enforced chastity and FLR. She’s right. I wouldn’t stray anyway.