I guess it’s normal to feel overwhelmed by new things. Yesterday I mentioned I had a moment of terror with regard to domestic discipline. It wasn’t any different than the moments of terror I got when we started male chastity. Or, for that matter, any time we introduce something new. There are always times when I think I’m in way over my head. I just need to remember that there’s a learning curve and we need to take one step at a time. If you’ve been following us, you know that we’ve made our share of missteps along the way. Male chastity hasn’t always gone smoothly for us, but we’ve taken our time and worked through things. We continue to do this.
Lion loves to jump into the deep end when we start new things. Domestic discipline is no different. He’s full of suggestions. Full of ideas. Full of information from different sources. He’s excited. I can’t blame him. He’s like a kid with a new toy. He’s also like our dog on a leash. She drags me down the road, choking herself, so excited to find new things to smell. I constantly have to reel her back in and calm her down. That’s Lion. Charging down the road. Excited to get some rules set. Overanxious to tell me his transgressions. “I forgot to take my medicine. Do I get punished?” “This thing happened today and I forgot to tell you. Do I get punished?”
I know he’s trying to feel out the boundaries. What is a punishable offense? I still need to decide. So I told him to tell me when he’s done something wrong so I can decide if he needs to be punished. I can’t whomp him for everything. First of all, we’d have no time for anything else. Second, for the swats to mean anything, they should be for things that matter. Of course, if there are enough of the little things over the course of a day or so (if he constantly forgets to take his medicine or tell me things) then those transgressions should add up to one big thing. We’re very new at this so I’m sure there will be missteps. My job is to make sure we don’t get too far off the rails.
I have to decide when I want to dish out the punishment. Every few days? Certain days of the week? I probably just need to pick one and see how it goes. I can always change it later. So for now I will make it on Mondays and Thursdays. Just random days. If punishment day falls on a play day or scheduled orgasm day I will need to do the punishment earlier in the evening. I don’t want the discipline too close to the pleasure.
And we’re off.
The straining-the-leash metaphor made me smile. 🙂
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